1. I need you to listen,Copy !req
2. I need you to answer.Copy !req
3. I need you to listen,Copy !req
4. I need you to answer.Copy !req
5. O God I need you too.Copy !req
6. I want to see your face.Copy !req
7. It is this love I have.Copy !req
8. It makes me search for you.Copy !req
9. I need you to listen,Copy !req
10. I need you to answer.Copy !req
11. I need you to listen,Copy !req
12. I need you to answer.Copy !req
13. Do not avoid my eyes
or let me anger you.Copy !req
14. Do not toss me aside.Copy !req
15. O God, do not drop me.Copy !req
16. Alright you two. That's enough.Copy !req
17. I like her.Copy !req
18. I think she likes you.Copy !req
19. What tells you that Mum?Copy !req
20. Here you go Mum.Copy !req
21. This is such a nice day.Copy !req
22. Who knows this?Copy !req
23. May those who love you,Copy !req
24. be like the sun when it
rises in its strength.Copy !req
25. Corinthians? Judges 5:31.Copy !req
26. So grandma, how old are you again?Copy !req
27. Never mind.Copy !req
28. You know you shouldn't ask for the age...Copy !req
29. That's very nice!Copy !req
30. Save some for me, will you?Copy !req
31. That's very nice!Copy !req
32. Who's that from?Copy !req
33. From you and Mary!Copy !req
34. Well correct!Copy !req
35. I was just testing.Copy !req
36. Remember Mum?
We were at the mallCopy !req
37. and you said you liked that.Copy !req
38. So I went back and I got it for you.Copy !req
39. Nancy honey, get me my purse.Copy !req
40. Why am I always the one
harrased to get the purse?Copy !req
41. Youngest Griffith girl's the purse mule.Copy !req
42. O Grandma. Open mine.Copy !req
43. Why do I have to be the purse mule?Copy !req
44. Ok. Fine.Copy !req
45. Yes, I think it suits me.Copy !req
46. What do you guys think?Copy !req
47. Grandma, that is a lovely
shade of lipstick.Copy !req
48. Beautiful! O Ed stop it.Copy !req
49. Why? What's wrong Mum?Copy !req
50. It's disgusting.Copy !req
51. If you ask me, queers should
all be lined up and shot.Copy !req
52. Didn't you say that last year
about the Giants?Copy !req
53. What did you say?Copy !req
54. Never mind.Copy !req
55. What is this?Copy !req
56. It's a journal. Like a diary.
I don't need any more stuff.Copy !req
57. Mum!Copy !req
58. - What?
- I'll go.Copy !req
59. It's a good thing we didn't
get you the pen.Copy !req
60. You can't take it personal.Copy !req
61. It's grandma.Copy !req
62. You know the rules. Sh'es mean sometimes.
Then we get a free pass to make fun of her.Copy !req
63. Bobby, she picks at me.Copy !req
64. Nobody ever picks on you.
You're the favorite.Copy !req
65. So what's it like to be perfect?Copy !req
66. I'm perfect?Copy !req
67. You think I'm perfect?Copy !req
68. Have you looked in a mirror lately?
You're Charlie's next angel, ok?Copy !req
69. Can I have it?Copy !req
70. You don't want it.
Well, I'm taking it.Copy !req
71. I'm gonna fill this up in a week.Copy !req
72. Come on. Let's go celebrate grandmas'
39-39 birthday.Copy !req
73. I am ready.Copy !req
74. What?Copy !req
75. I wanna go further.Copy !req
76. Is... Is something wrong?
I thought you'd want to...Copy !req
77. Here? I mean, this isn't really
what I had in mind.Copy !req
78. It doesn't have to be here.Copy !req
79. I should go. I have to
get up early tomorrow.Copy !req
80. Is something wrong?Copy !req
81. I don't think this is gonna work.Copy !req
82. I think we should break up.Copy !req
83. I thought you liked me... I came
to meet your family.Copy !req
84. I just don't want to get that serious.Copy !req
85. Well, it doesn't have to be serious, ok?Copy !req
86. It's not you, it's me.Copy !req
87. I'm sorry.Copy !req
88. Hey. You wanna watch with me?Copy !req
89. I'm tired. Oh come on!Copy !req
90. Who else can I get to watch
an old black and white movie?Copy !req
91. You know if it's not John Wayne,
your dad's not interested.Copy !req
92. It's really scary.Copy !req
93. You know this scene's famous?
Really?Copy !req
94. You know they got that
glass of milk to glow?Copy !req
95. How?Copy !req
96. Well Hitchcock put a lightbulb insideCopy !req
97. the glass so the audience would know
the milk was poisonous.Copy !req
98. No kidding.Copy !req
99. That's clever.Copy !req
100. How do you know that?Copy !req
101. Cause I'm brilliant.Copy !req
102. You are brilliant!
Take it away; I'm eating too much.Copy !req
103. I think there's something wrong with me.Copy !req
104. That's for sure.Copy !req
105. What you think Mum would do if she
found out one of us was a psychoptath?Copy !req
106. What you mean "if"?Copy !req
107. You know she's always saying...Copy !req
108. the whole family's gonna be
together in the afterlife?Copy !req
109. Well...Copy !req
110. What if one of us is a sinner?Copy !req
111. Have you sinned with Michelle?
I promise I won't tell.Copy !req
112. It's not that.Copy !req
113. I'm just...
thinking about stuff, you know?Copy !req
114. You think too much.Copy !req
115. It's dangerous.
That's why I avoid it at all cost.Copy !req
116. Yeah?Copy !req
117. I'm glad we talked.Copy !req
118. Seriously, something... something wrong?Copy !req
119. No.Copy !req
120. Relax, cause I'm your big bro.
I'm just looking out for you.Copy !req
121. What's up Bobby? Ready to go?Copy !req
122. Hey Bobby. Cheryl.Copy !req
123. She's not your type.
Too much eye shadow.Copy !req
124. What's wrong with Michelle?Copy !req
125. We broke up.Copy !req
126. Talk to you guys later.Copy !req
127. Not telling the truth...Copy !req
128. sometimes I feel like I'm at
the edge of a cliff,Copy !req
129. looking down at the crashing surf
with nowhere to go but down.Copy !req
130. I used to have these fun dreams
when I was so free.Copy !req
131. But now, as I fly,Copy !req
132. I'm afraid.Copy !req
133. They are telephone lines and
electrical wires.Copy !req
134. How painful it would be to run into one.Copy !req
135. I wonder if I'll ever be free again.Copy !req
136. Hello?Copy !req
137. Bobby? Bobby? Hey! Bobby?Copy !req
138. What did you do? Ha?Copy !req
139. Did you take these? Answer me!
No! Is that the truth?Copy !req
140. I couldn't do it, ok?
Get off me.Copy !req
141. I wanted to but I couldn't.Copy !req
142. What's wrong with you?Copy !req
143. Why I couldn't do it?Copy !req
144. Because it's a sin.Copy !req
145. Bobby, what are you talking about?Copy !req
146. I didn't wanna go to hell, but...
I am.Copy !req
147. Cause this is worse.Copy !req
148. Bobby, you're scaring me.
What's going on?Copy !req
149. You'd all hate me.Copy !req
150. I know it. I know that if you guys
knew the truth, you'd hate me.Copy !req
151. No. Whatever it is...Copy !req
152. we'll tell Mum... No!Copy !req
153. No. Mum wouldn't understand. OK?
She can't know.Copy !req
154. Then you have to tell me right now.Copy !req
155. I'm not like you Ed.Copy !req
156. So what?Copy !req
157. I keep trying.Copy !req
158. I keep telling myself that one day I'm gonna wake
up and it's gonna be different. But it's not.Copy !req
159. I don't dream...Copy !req
160. about girls, like you do.Copy !req
161. I dream about guys.Copy !req
162. You're gay? See?Copy !req
163. You even say it like you hate me.Copy !req
164. Bob, gimme a break.
I don't know what to do!Copy !req
165. - We'll tell Mum and dad.
- No! No.Copy !req
166. They can help, Bobby. They always
want us to come to them.Copy !req
167. They can help. I can't! Ok?Copy !req
168. And you're not gonna say
anything either.Copy !req
169. Promise me.Copy !req
170. Promise me you're not gonna
say anything.Copy !req
171. Ed, promise!Copy !req
172. Ok.Copy !req
173. I promise.Copy !req
174. Mum, if there was something wrong
with one of your kids, you alwaysCopy !req
175. said that we should come to you...Copy !req
176. What did you do?Copy !req
177. It's not me, it's Bobby.Copy !req
178. What is it?Copy !req
179. I didn't want to tell you but he was...Copy !req
180. in such a bad shape, I'm really
worried about him.Copy !req
181. He thinks...Copy !req
182. he might be homosexual.Copy !req
183. He's not.Copy !req
184. He didn't want me to tell you. He was
gonna take a bunch of aspirins.Copy !req
185. Ok?Copy !req
186. You know... he trusted me, you
can't go too hard on him.Copy !req
187. Ok, good. It's good.Copy !req
188. I'm glad you told me.Copy !req
189. There's no doubt in my mind that
God can handle this.Copy !req
190. He'll help us.Copy !req
191. He'll heal Bobby.Copy !req
192. In order for all of us to be together
in the kingdom of heaven,Copy !req
193. we cannot stray.Copy !req
194. We can't sin like that.Copy !req
195. That is a terrible sin.Copy !req
196. The bible calls it an abomination.Copy !req
197. In Leviticus, if a man lies with
another man,Copy !req
198. they should both be put to death.Copy !req
199. I will not raise my family not
being together in the next life.Copy !req
200. Mary. Can we please worry about this life
before we worry about the next life?Copy !req
201. Hey. What's going on?Copy !req
202. Isn't there a problem you need to
tell us about?Copy !req
203. - No...
- Bobby.Copy !req
204. If there is something wrong, you
need to share it with your family.Copy !req
205. How could you?Copy !req
206. - Bobby...
- I'm gonna kill you!Copy !req
207. No! Ok, ok. Enough!Copy !req
208. I was worried about you!Copy !req
209. I trusted you! Calm down!Copy !req
210. Hey, Ed. Go find some room.Copy !req
211. Bobby, we're your family.
We can get through this.Copy !req
212. I know that if we trust in God,
we can get through this.Copy !req
213. It's curable with his help.Copy !req
214. I'm sorry. I can't help it.Copy !req
215. I don't even want it Mum!
What do I do?Copy !req
216. Bobby, you're not gay.Copy !req
217. You're probably just...Copy !req
218. you haven't met a girl that you're
really attracted to.Copy !req
219. Please...Copy !req
220. Mum, please don't tell anyone please...Copy !req
221. - Mum, please don't tell anyone.
- It's all right.Copy !req
222. It's gonna be fine.Copy !req
223. I was worried about you.Copy !req
224. What was I supposed to do?Copy !req
225. I'm out of here.Copy !req
226. Thank you again for joining us
I'm pastor RaymondCopy !req
227. and we'll take another call,
this is from Melissa in Concord.Copy !req
228. Thank you reverend,
I'm a little nervous.Copy !req
229. My sister made a terrible mistakeCopy !req
230. she sinned...Copy !req
231. I advise you to live according to
your new life in the holy spirit.Copy !req
232. Then you won't be doing...Copy !req
233. what your sinful nature craves.Copy !req
234. When the holy spirit controls your life,Copy !req
235. it will produce love, joy and kindness,Copy !req
236. goodness and self-control.Copy !req
237. Does everyone have to know?
We're your family.Copy !req
238. We love you.Copy !req
239. I am pure of hearts.
I am of god's goodness.Copy !req
240. We still love you, Bobby.Copy !req
241. Yes, thanks. Can I get some privacy?Copy !req
242. Hi Mary!Copy !req
243. Everything you always wanted to
know about sex.Copy !req
244. If a homosexual who wants to renounce to
homosexuality...Copy !req
245. finds a psychiastrist who knows
how to cure homosexuality...Copy !req
246. he has every chance of becoming...Copy !req
247. a happy well adjusted heterosexual.Copy !req
248. Do you hear any voices?Copy !req
249. No.Copy !req
250. Do you ever hear any ringing sounds?Copy !req
251. No.Copy !req
252. Is that the phone?Copy !req
253. It was a joke.Copy !req
254. So you think you're a homosexual?Copy !req
255. Bobby, how many girls have you
been with?Copy !req
256. I don't know. Two.Copy !req
257. Had sexual relations with?Copy !req
258. Then how do you know for sure?Copy !req
259. I just...Copy !req
260. have these feelings, you know?Copy !req
261. I don't mean you know. I mean...Copy !req
262. I have these feelings.Copy !req
263. Do you want to be homosexual?Copy !req
264. I just wanna be close with my
family again.Copy !req
265. I feel like I slipped up and
now I can't... get back.Copy !req
266. I'm not gonna be able to help you...
if you don't answer my questions.Copy !req
267. No, I don't wanna be this way.Copy !req
268. I'm gonna talk with your mother
alone for a minute, ok?Copy !req
269. She wants to talk to you.Copy !req
270. He can be cured. Right?Copy !req
271. He has to be willing to really put
the work in.Copy !req
272. O, he is. I know he is.Copy !req
273. And I think it would be good, it would
be important to have your husband comeCopy !req
274. join us in therapy.Copy !req
275. Right...Copy !req
276. How did it go?Copy !req
277. She said we should spend some more time
together.Copy !req
278. Maybe the two of you could spendCopy !req
279. some quality time together.Copy !req
280. Yes, sure.Copy !req
281. That's all she said for 60$ an hour?Copy !req
282. She also wants the 3 of us to go to
a few sessions together.Copy !req
283. What? So it's our fault?Copy !req
284. No no... I don't know about it but
it's fine if he goes.Copy !req
285. Bob, I want you to be a part of this.
I can't do it alone, ok?Copy !req
286. I read that homosexuals have sex
in public bathrooms,Copy !req
287. and that they recruit children.Copy !req
288. What are you saying?Copy !req
289. Do you think Bobby was recruited?
Come on Mary, you're going overboard.Copy !req
290. You got to do something about this.
I won't lose him.Copy !req
291. Dear lord, we ask that you keep
Bobby safe from temptation.Copy !req
292. Please help him return to a pure heart.Copy !req
293. Do you think this will heal me?Copy !req
294. You have to trust the God will heal you.Copy !req
295. And that Satan will try to discourage
you.Copy !req
296. Do you trust in god?Copy !req
297. Yeah.Copy !req
298. Now let me go to sleep.Copy !req
299. When temptation is all around you,Copy !req
300. faith is not enough.
It requires discipline.Copy !req
301. Not just mental, but physical.Copy !req
302. Who would like to share their story?Copy !req
303. I used to be so unhappy.Copy !req
304. I stayed out all night,
I talked back to my mother.Copy !req
305. Since coming here and accepting Jesus
as my savior,Copy !req
306. I've changed..Copy !req
307. My Mum and I are like best friends now.Copy !req
308. That's great Kerry.Copy !req
309. The power of prayer and hard work.Copy !req
310. Bobby what about you?
How are you coming along?Copy !req
311. Good...Copy !req
312. Well, you feel better. Don't you?
I can see it in your eyes.Copy !req
313. Your hard works' paid off. Hasn't it?Copy !req
314. Yeah...Copy !req
315. Let's sing, shall we?Copy !req
316. Nothing I do seems to make a difference.Copy !req
317. I try to act like them but
it feels impossible.Copy !req
318. It's an awful feeling to believe you canCopy !req
319. be headed straight for the fires of hell.Copy !req
320. Even worse is everyone telling you
how simple the solution is.Copy !req
321. They don't know what it is to be
in my shoes.Copy !req
322. I'm running, I'm not eating junk food.Copy !req
323. Good, good!Copy !req
324. Yeah, that's good but...
I don't know the point of it.Copy !req
325. I mean, my face has cleared up but
everything else feels the same.Copy !req
326. Well you have to stick with it.
Do you like the people in your group?Copy !req
327. They're ok.
This one girl, she...Copy !req
328. You know, I hope you're taking this
seriously.Copy !req
329. I mean that I hope you are trying with
all your might.Copy !req
330. I cannot lose you to this.Copy !req
331. You won't.Copy !req
332. Have faith!Copy !req
333. Well this is gonna be fun.Copy !req
334. When was the last time all the
Griffith men went hiking together?Copy !req
335. So how's school?Copy !req
336. Good.Copy !req
337. You thought about your plans?Copy !req
338. Well college...Copy !req
339. No, I mean... life plans.Copy !req
340. Well, I'm still thinking of becoming
a writer.Copy !req
341. Listen Bobby, you always had a strong
imagination.Copy !req
342. And we've always been alright with that. But you're getting
to the age where you're gonna have to get practical.Copy !req
343. Alright, dreams...Copy !req
344. they're great when you're young, but...
they don't really have...Copy !req
345. really have a place in the real world.Copy !req
346. Yeah.Copy !req
347. You hear what I'm saying to you?Copy !req
348. - Yeah. - Alright, alright.
Le'ts go, let's move. Alright.Copy !req
349. How did it go?Copy !req
350. I'm "healed".Copy !req
351. It was fine.Copy !req
352. Did you two talk?Copy !req
353. Yeah, we talked.Copy !req
354. What did you talk about?Copy !req
355. Mary, it was fine.Copy !req
356. No, but this is important.Copy !req
357. This could make him or break him.Copy !req
358. I did the best I could.
Is that alright with you?Copy !req
359. A lot of times, confusions like Bobby'sCopy !req
360. can be caused by a distant father or
an overbearing mother.Copy !req
361. Well, I had both but I'm fine.Copy !req
362. - Bob?
- Yes?Copy !req
363. You need to participate in this.Copy !req
364. I'm right here Mary. I'm in the room.Copy !req
365. I think...
I've been a very good father.Copy !req
366. And maybe you don't know this but
Bobby. I mean he was never into...Copy !req
367. stuff that his brother and other boys
were into. He's just not interested.Copy !req
368. So I'm not gonna force him.Copy !req
369. Hi Bobby I'm Sheila.Copy !req
370. Mum, who's that?Copy !req
371. Sheila is a student in my Sunday
school class.Copy !req
372. You got me a date?Copy !req
373. You need to go out with lots of girls.
And your dad thinks so too.Copy !req
374. Can I at least pick my own?Copy !req
375. I donnot think that you are.Copy !req
376. Have fun.Copy !req
377. You look nifty. Do you
want a brownie for energy?Copy !req
378. No - Take them up! No?Copy !req
379. Hello. Who's this?Copy !req
380. That's my brother Ed.
Hi. Hi, I'm Sheila.Copy !req
381. - Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you too.Copy !req
382. Hi.Copy !req
383. - Are you up to see my friends?
- Yeah!Copy !req
384. So you're never gonna talk to me again?Copy !req
385. ?Copy !req
386. What if she wants me
to kiss her goodnight?Copy !req
387. Tell her you're gay.Copy !req
388. Watch out fag.Copy !req
389. Did you tell your friends?Copy !req
390. Bobby, that's not my friend.
You told everyone I'm gay?Copy !req
391. I haven't told anyone. Stop being
so paranoid.Copy !req
392. You all hate me for it.Copy !req
393. I know you don't think I see it but I do.Copy !req
394. I gotta go.Copy !req
395. Bobby...Copy !req
396. It's 3 in the morning!Copy !req
397. Sorry I lost track of time.
Where were you?Copy !req
398. Bobby...Copy !req
399. You weren't with homosexuals, were you?Copy !req
400. This is not you.
This is temptation working its ways.Copy !req
401. You have to pray harder if
you're going to get well.Copy !req
402. Good night, Mum.Copy !req
403. Pray for forgiveness right away.Copy !req
404. If you believe, you will receive whatever
you ask for in prayer. Matthew 21:22.Copy !req
405. It was fine, girls. But I gotta go.Copy !req
406. Ok.Copy !req
407. Bobby! Hey!Copy !req
408. Where's Joy?Copy !req
409. She's at work so she
asked me to pick you up.Copy !req
410. You're welcome.Copy !req
411. - What's with you?
- What?Copy !req
412. You think I didn't notice that?
You don't want your friends to see me.Copy !req
413. Some people wouldn't understand.Copy !req
414. And now it's so obvious...Copy !req
415. What did you tell them?Copy !req
416. Well look the way you're wearing.Copy !req
417. And I told you time after time not
to do that thing with your arm.Copy !req
418. Makes you look like a girl
and you continue to do it.Copy !req
419. - I'm always dressed this way.
- No, you haven't. It's gotten worse.Copy !req
420. Why you're doing this?
I'm trying to help you.Copy !req
421. No, you're not.
You're trying to help YOU!Copy !req
422. It's not about me. It's about
what people think about you.Copy !req
423. Imagine if they thought your son
was some big queer.Copy !req
424. What's wrong with you?
Stop that!Copy !req
425. Nite Mum. Great. Le'ts go home!Copy !req
426. - I'm walking.
- No!Copy !req
427. Where are you going?Copy !req
428. I've never seen you around here before.Copy !req
429. You are really beautiful.Copy !req
430. I gotta go.Copy !req
431. Can I call you?Copy !req
432. No.Copy !req
433. Metropolitan Community Church
celebrates gay pride.Copy !req
434. All are welcomeCopy !req
435. Bobby...Copy !req
436. Don't worry. I was at church.Copy !req
437. Hi CousinCopy !req
438. I have a name. It's gorgeous cousin.Copy !req
439. So, how long you're here for?
Just a day, I'm driving home tonight.Copy !req
440. I came to see my dad. But I
couldn't resist stopping by.Copy !req
441. Maybe it's not a choice.
Maybe I just can't help it.Copy !req
442. So you say that stealing's not a choice.Copy !req
443. What?
Aunt Mary, lunch is delicious.Copy !req
444. Joy's right Bobby.Copy !req
445. The bible says:
Men committed shameless acts with menCopy !req
446. and received in their own's person
the due penalty for their error.Copy !req
447. You just won't change, will you?Copy !req
448. I can't erase what's in the bible.Copy !req
449. Personnally, I think people should
be able to love whoever they want.Copy !req
450. Did I mention how good lunch is?Copy !req
451. Even animals know what to do it with.Copy !req
452. Actually, our dog does it with a pillow...Copy !req
453. Can we please find something
different to discuss?Copy !req
454. Ed, why don't you tell us about college?Copy !req
455. I dropped school last week.Copy !req
456. You what?Copy !req
457. Well, what about college?
I'm not going.Copy !req
458. Great!Copy !req
459. What's next?Copy !req
460. You wanna ruin your life?Copy !req
461. Yeah well it's my life to ruin.Copy !req
462. Is it like this at every meal?Copy !req
463. Pretty much.Copy !req
464. You should come up and visit
me in Portland. It's so great!Copy !req
465. I used to envy you..Copy !req
466. When I came here with Mum and Dad,Copy !req
467. I always wished your
parents were my parents.Copy !req
468. You all seemed so close.Copy !req
469. Well that's over with.Copy !req
470. I think they love the sinners. Not the sin.Copy !req
471. They should love the son
no matter what the sin.Copy !req
472. Hey that's good.Copy !req
473. I'm gonna start my own bible.Copy !req
474. Think about coming to Portland?Copy !req
475. Hi Mrs. Griffith! Is Bobby here?Copy !req
476. Bobby! You know it's enough you
go God knows where at night.Copy !req
477. But now you're bringing these
deviants into my house.Copy !req
478. It's my house too.
And they're my friends.Copy !req
479. Is that what that boy is?Copy !req
480. Is it a sin to have friends now too Mum?Copy !req
481. We have a good time, ok?
We go to the rocky chore together.Copy !req
482. Does it mean we're all gonna get
strucked down? They're gay, aren't they?Copy !req
483. I thought you were getting better.
When?Copy !req
484. When I was miserable?
That looked like I was getting better?Copy !req
485. You're right Mum!
I'm doomed just to roast in hell!Copy !req
486. Don't say that.
That's what your bible says!Copy !req
487. The bible also says a person can change.Copy !req
488. I tried Mum. I can't!Copy !req
489. Why do you keep choosing this?Copy !req
490. Why would I choose this?Copy !req
491. Why would I choose to have
my entire family hate me?Copy !req
492. No we love you. Can't you see
that's why we're doing this?Copy !req
493. Really Mum? Is that what love feels like?Copy !req
494. Have fun in Portland.Copy !req
495. Here's an issue for your vacation.Copy !req
496. I hope you like it.Copy !req
497. Promise me you'll write
and call all the time?Copy !req
498. It's two months.Copy !req
499. Drive carefully.Copy !req
500. Don't worry Madam.Copy !req
501. You call me when you get to Portland.Copy !req
502. I had this engraved with your initials.Copy !req
503. I love you guys.Copy !req
504. Bye Bobby.Copy !req
505. Already I'm glad to be
away from Walnut Creek.Copy !req
506. This feels like a new life.Copy !req
507. A new day.Copy !req
508. I'm gonna be a success in every way I can.Copy !req
509. It's my goal to achieve,Copy !req
510. a sense of pride,Copy !req
511. and worth as a human being.Copy !req
512. Gorgeous cousin.Copy !req
513. Welcome to Portland!Copy !req
514. Trust me...
You don't find clubs like this back home.Copy !req
515. I'll see.Copy !req
516. Welcome to London House cousin.Copy !req
517. This is amazing!Copy !req
518. Let's go boogie.Copy !req
519. David! Janette!Copy !req
520. This is my cousin Bobby.Copy !req
521. Nice to finally meet you Bobby!Copy !req
522. So Janette tells me your Mum wants
to cure you of your gayness.Copy !req
523. Yeah, well...Copy !req
524. My parents don't really understand it.Copy !req
525. Do yours? They didn't first.Copy !req
526. But, they eventually came around.Copy !req
527. How did you get them to change?Copy !req
528. Well, one day, I told them «Accept
me as I am, or forget me!».Copy !req
529. I know my Mum means well but I don't
know if she'll ever accept me.Copy !req
530. Just don't stop trying.Copy !req
531. Now that you know.Copy !req
532. What every parent should
know about homosexuality.Copy !req
533. Have a great trip.Copy !req
534. Don't let her get to you.Copy !req
535. And don't be afraid to stand up to her.Copy !req
536. Too much flew by fast.Copy !req
537. I'll call you when I get home.Copy !req
538. You'd better.Copy !req
539. Well. Look who's home.Copy !req
540. - Hey Dad.
- Hey, come here, come here.Copy !req
541. Just in time for dinner. Come on in.Copy !req
542. That's funny.Copy !req
543. So how was Portland? Yeah...Copy !req
544. Portland was great. Good!Copy !req
545. I'm thinking of maybe moving
there for a little bit.Copy !req
546. Moving there? I met someone...Copy !req
547. A guy.Copy !req
548. Girls...Copy !req
549. Give me a hand with this.Copy !req
550. We're supposed to pretend
we didn't hear that?Copy !req
551. Yes.Copy !req
552. Bobby...Copy !req
553. This might not have been the right time.Copy !req
554. I know.Copy !req
555. I'm sorry..Copy !req
556. You should start thinking
about college for next fall.Copy !req
557. You need to get your GED first.Copy !req
558. I mean...
it's ok to take some time off but...Copy !req
559. Did you hear me?
I don't wanna know.Copy !req
560. I want you to know.
His name's David.Copy !req
561. We always start at the beginning every time and if we're
not getting any more different let's just not go there.Copy !req
562. When I'm with him,
it feels so...Copy !req
563. good!Copy !req
564. He treats me well...Copy !req
565. he's funny and he's smart...Copy !req
566. Stop. I mean it. I don't wanna hear it.
And you know I don't.Copy !req
567. I spent the last year listening to you
and you're gonna listen to me for once.Copy !req
568. It feels good when I'm with David.Copy !req
569. But if he touches me in public,
or God forbids, kisses me,Copy !req
570. I pull away.Copy !req
571. I feel ashame.
Because you know it's wrong.Copy !req
572. - Because YOU told me it's wrong.
- It's not me. It's the bible.Copy !req
573. It's not the bible. It's you!Copy !req
574. Why can't you admit that?Copy !req
575. Why can't you admit that
you can't stand what I am?Copy !req
576. What you've become!Copy !req
577. What I am!Copy !req
578. I'm sorry. I'm not the perfect
little Bobby you always wanted.Copy !req
579. But I can't keep apologizing for it Mum.Copy !req
580. Accept me as I am or forget it.Copy !req
581. I won't have a gay son.Copy !req
582. Then Mum you don't have a son.Copy !req
583. Fine.Copy !req
584. Bobby...Copy !req
585. Did you really think she'd change, Bobby?Copy !req
586. She meant it.Copy !req
587. She meant that.Copy !req
588. I really want you to be happy.Copy !req
589. And I'm sure that guy's really nice.Copy !req
590. No matter what. She'll never accept it.Copy !req
591. It's gonna be a lonely life because
he'll never be welcome here.Copy !req
592. And for Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything.Copy !req
593. Don't worry about Mum too much.
She'll come around.Copy !req
594. I'm not gonna hold my breath.Copy !req
595. Here you go.Copy !req
596. The parachute pants!Copy !req
597. Thanks.Copy !req
598. I'll send you my first
novel when I write it.Copy !req
599. Bye Buck-Tooth!Copy !req
600. Take care, ok?Copy !req
601. Drive safe.Copy !req
602. Most of the new cases up to 5 a day seem to
be settled in the homosexual community...Copy !req
603. The AIDS becoming known
as «the gay disease».Copy !req
604. Well...Copy !req
605. your Mum went a lot for your birthday.Copy !req
606. No card.
A sweater and "AIDS - The Wrath of God".Copy !req
607. Whoah.Copy !req
608. Happy birthday!Copy !req
609. You can't expect anything
different from her, Bobby.Copy !req
610. She's not gonna change.Copy !req
611. Birthdays were always a
big deal for all of us.Copy !req
612. I'm just not in the «all of us» anymore.Copy !req
613. Can't get that throughout my head.Copy !req
614. There's David.Copy !req
615. Talk to you later.Copy !req
616. You sure this is ok?
They're gonna love you.Copy !req
617. Let's go.Copy !req
618. Dad, do you have to tell that story?Copy !req
619. Hey, I felt I had to.Copy !req
620. Yes. And I've got about a dozen more where
that came from if you're interested.Copy !req
621. Oh, oh no thanks.Copy !req
622. So Bobby...
tell us more about you.Copy !req
623. You grew up in Walnut Creek, right?Copy !req
624. David says you're very close
to your family. Yeah.Copy !req
625. So how are your parents with you being gay?Copy !req
626. Not good.Copy !req
627. Well...
Maybe it's hard for them at first.Copy !req
628. They'll come around. You seem like a
wonderful young man. I'm sure they love you.Copy !req
629. Hey! - Cheers to that!
Cheers to that!Copy !req
630. It's great to meet you Bobby.Copy !req
631. So how did you guys meet?Copy !req
632. You know Janette?Copy !req
633. It's a sin.Copy !req
634. It's not natural.Copy !req
635. He'll never be welcome here.
Why do you keep choosing this?Copy !req
636. Sometimes I hurt so bad...Copy !req
637. And I'm scared and I'm alone.Copy !req
638. I'm sure they love you.Copy !req
639. I'm damned.Copy !req
640. I'm slowly sinking in a
vast lake of quick sand.Copy !req
641. A bottomless pool.Copy !req
642. I wish I could crawl under
a rock and sleep forever.Copy !req
643. You've reached David.Copy !req
644. I'm not here right now but if you leave a message
after the beep, I'll get right back to you.Copy !req
645. Have a good one...Copy !req
646. Hey David it's Bobby.Copy !req
647. I thought you'd be there.Copy !req
648. Look I'm...Copy !req
649. I really need someone to talk to
and I was hoping you'd be there.Copy !req
650. Please,Copy !req
651. dear lord,Copy !req
652. continue to convict Bobby's heart off sin.Copy !req
653. That he may find his way.Copy !req
654. The way of purity,Copy !req
655. the way of the righteous.Copy !req
656. It's a sin.Copy !req
657. It's not natural.Copy !req
658. I won't have a gay son.Copy !req
659. You're gonna be late for school.Copy !req
660. You're the one who slept in.Copy !req
661. Ok, then we're both gonna
be late for school.Copy !req
662. Meet you in the car.Copy !req
663. - OK!
- Hello?Copy !req
664. Janette, what's wrong?Copy !req
665. No...Copy !req
666. What's wrong? No...Copy !req
667. What's wrong?
Nancy, get out of here!Copy !req
668. Dad!Copy !req
669. Daddy...Copy !req
670. Hello.Copy !req
671. Hi. Hi, Janette...Copy !req
672. Mary, you've been called up front
and he said to bring your purse.Copy !req
673. Probably one of the kids
that needs money again.Copy !req
674. I need a break anyway. Bye.Copy !req
675. What is it?Copy !req
676. Bobby killed himself.Copy !req
677. He jumped off a bridge.Copy !req
678. He... He's gone.Copy !req
679. Help me!Copy !req
680. Help me!Copy !req
681. My son is dead! Let me out!Copy !req
682. Let me out!Copy !req
683. My son is dead! Let me out!Copy !req
684. Joy, slow down. What's wrong?Copy !req
685. Thank you.Copy !req
686. Death of a loved one is always tragic.Copy !req
687. But the death of a young person
can be particularly painful.Copy !req
688. Because that person had his
whole life ahead of him.Copy !req
689. Bobby was only 20 years old.Copy !req
690. We'll never know who he could have been.Copy !req
691. Or what he could have accomplished.Copy !req
692. Bobby was a good young man but he was lost.Copy !req
693. By giving into temptation, he strayed.Copy !req
694. Then desillusioned,Copy !req
695. he chose to end his life.Copy !req
696. Now we know to condemn the sin,Copy !req
697. not the sinner,Copy !req
698. it was this sin that Bobby succombed to.Copy !req
699. It led to his unhappiness.Copy !req
700. And it led himCopy !req
701. to take his own life.Copy !req
702. As goodness begets goodness,Copy !req
703. so does sin begets sin.Copy !req
704. They're ok with this?Copy !req
705. They're running low on sandwiches.Copy !req
706. Mum, do you think Bobby got salvation?Copy !req
707. I don't know.Copy !req
708. Suicide is a sin.Copy !req
709. But maybe God knows that Bobby
wasn't in his right mind?Copy !req
710. I mean...Copy !req
711. Why would God allow Booby to go to hell
if it was in his power to cure him?Copy !req
712. I don't know Mary!Copy !req
713. Clear yourself together.Copy !req
714. People are unconfortable enough.Copy !req
715. Thank for coming.Copy !req
716. I'm so sorry for your loss.Copy !req
717. Mrs Griffith. Mr. Griffith..Copy !req
718. I'm David.Copy !req
719. I was a friend of Bobby's.Copy !req
720. I wanna offer my condolences.Copy !req
721. He was an amazing young man.Copy !req
722. I'm so sorry.Copy !req
723. Aunt Mary...Copy !req
724. David is a good person.Copy !req
725. All of Bobby's friends were.Copy !req
726. When Bobby was here, he was under control.Copy !req
727. Then he moves to Portland and someone
puts all these ideas into his head.Copy !req
728. It wasn't like that.
David cared for Bobby.Copy !req
729. We're his family.
We know how to help me,Copy !req
730. he wanted to change, to be closer to god.Copy !req
731. To be closer to YOU!Copy !req
732. Then he went further and further into
that life style and he couldn't get out.Copy !req
733. Do you believe everything
they tell you in church?Copy !req
734. I know you and uncle Bob
meant with that serment...Copy !req
735. Bobby knew the repercussions
about homosexual lifestyle.Copy !req
736. Bobby was good, descent and kind.Copy !req
737. Someone who didn't even know Bobby stood up
there and condemned him, and you let him.Copy !req
738. Bobby did everything he could to
make himself acceptable to you.Copy !req
739. He was so good, and bright, and funny.
He should be praised.Copy !req
740. I'm sorry you can't see it that way.Copy !req
741. Maybe you should go.Copy !req
742. Fine.Copy !req
743. I left Bobby's things in his room.Copy !req
744. Bobby!Copy !req
745. Hey Mum!Copy !req
746. Don't you ever do that again!Copy !req
747. I knew it wasn't true.Copy !req
748. I knew God would bring you back to me.Copy !req
749. Mum, you worry too much.Copy !req
750. I'm slowly sinking in a
vast lake of quick sands.Copy !req
751. A bottomless pool.Copy !req
752. I wish I could crawl under
a rock and sleep forever.Copy !req
753. No one understands me.Copy !req
754. No one in this house can
accept my side of the story.Copy !req
755. I can feel god's eyes looking
down on me with pity.Copy !req
756. I can't never let anyone
find out I'm not straight.Copy !req
757. It would be so humiliating...Copy !req
758. My friends would hate me.Copy !req
759. And my family...Copy !req
760. Mum.Copy !req
761. I've overheard them.Copy !req
762. Thank you.Copy !req
763. They've said that they hate gays.Copy !req
764. And even God hates gays.Copy !req
765. It really scares me when they talk that way
because now they are talking about me.Copy !req
766. I don't wanna choose sin.Copy !req
767. I don't.Copy !req
768. I'm so mad and frustrated god...Copy !req
769. I seem to be at the end of the road.Copy !req
770. Why do you remain silent?Copy !req
771. May 30th.Copy !req
772. Memorial Day Barbecue.Copy !req
773. Had fun.Copy !req
774. Mum was sweet and funny self.Copy !req
775. Like the old Mum...Copy !req
776. For a second it felt like the old days.Copy !req
777. She smiled at something I said,Copy !req
778. and I saw on her eyes that for a second
she forgot what she really thinks of me.Copy !req
779. The anger never erupts.Copy !req
780. My timid nature would never allow a
full fledged thunderstorm to occur.Copy !req
781. But it's there, on the horizon.Copy !req
782. I can feel god's eyes looking
down on me with such pity.Copy !req
783. He can't help me though.Copy !req
784. Because I've chosen sin over righteousness.Copy !req
785. Excuse me.Copy !req
786. You alright Ed?Copy !req
787. Oh yeah, I'm fantastic.
I think we all are. Isn't that obvious?Copy !req
788. Ed. We have to deal with this as a family.Copy !req
789. That was your answer for Bobby
too but it didn't work.Copy !req
790. Damned!Copy !req
791. I'll go. I'll go.Copy !req
792. Excuse me.Copy !req
793. Come, Nancy.Copy !req
794. You wanna get out of here,
maybe go for a beer?Copy !req
795. Did he even think about
what he would do to us?Copy !req
796. He could have called...Copy !req
797. or something but...Copy !req
798. not just screw us, right? Ed...Copy !req
799. Nothing no! No goodbye,
no note, nothing. Just...Copy !req
800. I'm sorry Bobby.Copy !req
801. I'm sorry.Copy !req
802. Are you happy now?Copy !req
803. I'm sorry Bobby.Copy !req
804. Are you happy now?Copy !req
805. Ed...Copy !req
806. It's not your fault.Copy !req
807. There must be other Bobbys out there.Copy !req
808. Other young gay people who may be
thinking of taking their lives.Copy !req
809. Does the church reach out to them?Copy !req
810. They are other churches that do that.Copy !req
811. Reverend Joseph asked us to tell
you how sorry he is for your loss.Copy !req
812. We can come back in a couple of
weeks and check in on your f...Copy !req
813. You don't understand, are you...Copy !req
814. I don't know what to do.Copy !req
815. I need to make peace with this and I can't.Copy !req
816. The lord says the impure will be
thrown into the lake of fire.Copy !req
817. Bobby... sinned!Copy !req
818. But he was pure of heart.Copy !req
819. He'd never knowingly hurt anyone.Copy !req
820. Is that enough?Copy !req
821. Is it?Copy !req
822. Dear god,Copy !req
823. my relationship to you leaves
something to be desired.Copy !req
824. I have never asked of you,Copy !req
825. only given, as I was told.Copy !req
826. Your holy spirit has taught me so much...Copy !req
827. But now there's more I need to know.Copy !req
828. Hey!Copy !req
829. I can't.Copy !req
830. Ok.Copy !req
831. I think I'm gonna sleep in the living room.Copy !req
832. Reverend?Copy !req
833. Mary Griffith.Copy !req
834. Nice to have you with us, Mary.Copy !req
835. The bible...Copy !req
836. it says that homosexuality is a sin
punishable by death. Do you believe that?Copy !req
837. There are other interpretations
of the bible, Mrs Griffith.Copy !req
838. My son...Copy !req
839. was gay...Copy !req
840. and he killed himself.Copy !req
841. Is there an other interpretation of that?Copy !req
842. I'm sorry.Copy !req
843. What was his name?Copy !req
844. Bobby.Copy !req
845. Bobby Griffith.Copy !req
846. I saw him here a couple of times.Copy !req
847. My Bobby?Copy !req
848. He always sat way in the back.Copy !req
849. He stopped coming.Copy !req
850. I am so sorry.Copy !req
851. You must be... I need answers.Copy !req
852. I need to know where he is.Copy !req
853. Is homosexuality an unforgivable sin?Copy !req
854. Leviticus, 18:22 says:Copy !req
855. «if a man lies with another
man, it is an abomination.».Copy !req
856. An abomination, in that time,
didn't mean sin. It meant unclean.Copy !req
857. Leviticus also goes on to
say eating shellfish is an abomination.Copy !req
858. Or mixing fabrics...Copy !req
859. Leviticus 20:13Copy !req
860. «if a man lies with another man,
they both should be put to death.».Copy !req
861. And then he says the same
thing about an adultere,Copy !req
862. or a child that disobeys their parents.Copy !req
863. And we certainly don't interpret
that scripture litteraly.Copy !req
864. In Deuteronomy 22,Copy !req
865. «if a woman is not a
virgin on her wedding day,Copy !req
866. she should be taken to her father's
house and stoned to death.».Copy !req
867. So what do you tell people who come here?Copy !req
868. Gay people...Copy !req
869. That homosexuality is ok?Copy !req
870. That it is permissible in god's eyes?Copy !req
871. I tell them what I believe to be the truth:Copy !req
872. That God loves them as they are.Copy !req
873. God's vengeance is great.Copy !req
874. So is his compassion.Copy !req
875. You shouldn't teach them
that homoseuxality is ok.Copy !req
876. That's not what the bible says.Copy !req
877. It just confuses them more.Copy !req
878. Mrs Griffith, if you'd like to come
back during the week and talk,Copy !req
879. my door is open,
but not to be blamed.Copy !req
880. Ok?Copy !req
881. I think that we gotCopy !req
882. a pretty good one,Copy !req
883. nice and full.Copy !req
884. A couple of balls like your dear old dad.Copy !req
885. Or grandma...Copy !req
886. Yeah...Copy !req
887. Mum, can we hang this one on the tree?Copy !req
888. I remember when he made this.Copy !req
889. Second grade.Copy !req
890. Mrs Towns' class, I think.Copy !req
891. He was so proud of himself.Copy !req
892. Where do you want to put it?Copy !req
893. Up high. So he can look out.Copy !req
894. Hey, they work.Copy !req
895. I'm gonna go check on my cookies.Copy !req
896. I found the passage you talked about.Copy !req
897. About stoning to death.Copy !req
898. Deuteronomy, 22.Copy !req
899. But what about Sodom and Gommorah?Copy !req
900. God punishes the sin of homosexuality.
How do you explain that?Copy !req
901. It's nice to see you too, Mary.Copy !req
902. What's this for?Copy !req
903. It's a roomish sale.Copy !req
904. All gay people have roomish too.Copy !req
905. So... What about Sodom and Gommorah?Copy !req
906. Many scholars think this sin was greedCopy !req
907. and not homosexuality.Copy !req
908. And it wasn't labeled homosexualityCopy !req
909. until years after it was written.Copy !req
910. Do you have answers for all these
things just to justify being that way?Copy !req
911. You have answers to
justify that it's wrong.Copy !req
912. I guess we're in an impass here.Copy !req
913. So you think it's ok to interpret
the bible any way you want?Copy !req
914. No, of course not. But the bible was
written and interpreted my mortal men.Copy !req
915. And many of those interpretations were
reflections of the time and what they lived.Copy !req
916. So you feel completely free to question it?Copy !req
917. Because... I think it's blasphemous.Copy !req
918. I don't think God minds questions.Copy !req
919. He might not be thrilled
with all our answers.Copy !req
920. I think blind faith is just
as dangerous as none at all.Copy !req
921. I've never questioned my faith. I...Copy !req
922. I've never had reasons to.Copy !req
923. Sometimes to question it...Copy !req
924. helps you find a deeper faith.Copy !req
925. Bobby stopped coming here.Copy !req
926. I think the reason was...Copy !req
927. he couldn't never allow himself
to feel worthy of God's love.Copy !req
928. And we didn't help.Copy !req
929. Mary...Copy !req
930. Have you ever heard about P-FLAG?Copy !req
931. It's a national organisation. It's
«Parents and friend of lesbians and gays».Copy !req
932. No, that's not for me.
They can help.Copy !req
933. You'd be able to see you're
not so alone in this.Copy !req
934. Bye reverend.Copy !req
935. No.
There's a woman in Concord, Betty Lambert.Copy !req
936. You'll love her.Copy !req
937. She has a gay son in his 30s.Copy !req
938. I just had a few questions.
I don't need anything else.Copy !req
939. Just in case.Copy !req
940. It's true. There's a passage
that says if children areCopy !req
941. disobedient they should be put to death.Copy !req
942. And I mean no one
interprets that litteraly.Copy !req
943. What I'm saying is...Copy !req
944. if the church no longer
interprets that litteraly,Copy !req
945. maybe homosexuality is also on that list.Copy !req
946. Well, maybe.Copy !req
947. Well, don't you think that's important?Copy !req
948. Mary, I wasn't that keen with the
first interpretation of the bible.Copy !req
949. Well, it could mean that Bobby's in heaven.Copy !req
950. Yeah, well, he's not here.
Right?Copy !req
951. Why isn't that enough for you?Copy !req
952. Is it enough for you?Copy !req
953. Does it make it any better?
Everything you're doing?Copy !req
954. What do you want me to do?Copy !req
955. Just forget about him? I can't do that.
Maybe you can.Copy !req
956. I don't wont to forget about him, Mary.Copy !req
957. I want to remember him. Then I
want to move on. But I can't!Copy !req
958. Nobody can...Copy !req
959. Just walk away. Like you always do.
You never deal with anything.Copy !req
960. Oh, I see...Copy !req
961. Maybe if I did, Bobby would
still be alive today?Copy !req
962. Is that what you're saying?
Is that what you think?Copy !req
963. You can answer me!Copy !req
964. Listen Mary...Copy !req
965. we both made mistakes. We all made
mistakes. But it's done, he's gone.Copy !req
966. We're not gonna bring him back.Copy !req
967. I know that!Copy !req
968. Don't you know I know that?Copy !req
969. Mary? I'm Betty.Copy !req
970. Hello. Betty Lambert.Copy !req
971. I'm so glad you called.Copy !req
972. Please, come in.Copy !req
973. Reverend Whitsell told me
what happened to Bobby.Copy !req
974. I can't imagine what it must feel
like to lose a child like that...Copy !req
975. How long has it been?Copy !req
976. Six months...Copy !req
977. Six months and a few days.Copy !req
978. Our son was 14 when he came out to us.Copy !req
979. Isn't that a little young?Copy !req
980. I knew before then.Copy !req
981. We, mothers, we always know. Don't we?Copy !req
982. And you were ok with it?Copy !req
983. Oh god, no.Copy !req
984. I don't think any parent hears
the news and thinks «Oh Goodie»!Copy !req
985. «Goodie» wasn't the first
word that came to my mind.Copy !req
986. Mary...Copy !req
987. Why don't you come to a
P-FLAG meeting with me?Copy !req
988. No, I'm...Copy !req
989. I'm not good at talking in groups.Copy !req
990. So don't talk.Copy !req
991. Just come and listen.Copy !req
992. I think you'll be shockedCopy !req
993. at how many people think they
were the All-American-Family.Copy !req
994. I'll think about it.Copy !req
995. Eric was taunted in shcool all the time.Copy !req
996. Mary, you came.
I can't stay long.Copy !req
997. That's great. Come on in.Copy !req
998. I was so furious, I went to the principal.Copy !req
999. But he didn't do a thing
to the boys who did it.Copy !req
1000. I was shocked by that.Copy !req
1001. I called them fruits, and ferries.Copy !req
1002. I didn't know.Copy !req
1003. It took me a long time to accept my Sam.Copy !req
1004. I think I alway knew.Copy !req
1005. I mean... He asked for a pink
Lacoste shirt for his birthday.Copy !req
1006. He was always different.Copy !req
1007. So he tells me he's gay...Copy !req
1008. What do I do?
I take him hunting.Copy !req
1009. There he is in his pink
Lacoste shirt, he saw a deerCopy !req
1010. and yaled «Run, Bambi, run».Copy !req
1011. I always knew I could love my sonCopy !req
1012. I never thought I could accept him.
For who he is.Copy !req
1013. Well, when Gil told me she was gay.
I insisted she see a psychiastrist.Copy !req
1014. But when that man suggested shock therapy,Copy !req
1015. I looked at my baby and,
the hurt in her eyes.Copy !req
1016. I thought «This is crazy!».Copy !req
1017. Ah, hello reverend!
Please, come sit down.Copy !req
1018. Hi guys! Hi reverend!Copy !req
1019. Glad to see you're all here tonight.Copy !req
1020. As you may know,Copy !req
1021. reverend Whitsell is a pastor of
the Metropolitan Community Church,Copy !req
1022. and he's proposing a gay freedom day
to the Walnut Creek city council.Copy !req
1023. The city council vote
happens in about a month.Copy !req
1024. And I would love all your support.Copy !req
1025. Mary!Copy !req
1026. Mary?Copy !req
1027. Mary, what are you doing out here?Copy !req
1028. You're soak. Come inside.
I didn't know where else to go.Copy !req
1029. I was sitting there,Copy !req
1030. listening to all their stories.Copy !req
1031. About how they...Copy !req
1032. always just knew...Copy !req
1033. their kid was different.Copy !req
1034. And then I had this dream tonight...Copy !req
1035. Bobby was a baby.Copy !req
1036. My son was always different.Copy !req
1037. His difference began at conception.Copy !req
1038. I knew that.Copy !req
1039. I felt it.Copy !req
1040. I know now...Copy !req
1041. why God didn't heal Bobby.Copy !req
1042. He didn't heal him because...Copy !req
1043. there was nothing wrong with him.Copy !req
1044. I did this!Copy !req
1045. I killed my son!Copy !req
1046. You did not kill your son.
Bobby killed himself.Copy !req
1047. How could God forgive me?Copy !req
1048. How could Bobby forgive me?Copy !req
1049. God has already done the forgiving.Copy !req
1050. You have to forgive yourself.Copy !req
1051. I'm so sorry!Copy !req
1052. I'm so sorry!Copy !req
1053. Dear god.Copy !req
1054. Give us something we can live withCopy !req
1055. and pass on to others whose lives will never
be the same because of a loved one's death.Copy !req
1056. I did not decide on brown eyes for myself.Copy !req
1057. And I now realize that Bobby
didn't decide to be gay.Copy !req
1058. If you say in your wordCopy !req
1059. that it is evil and wicked
to be born with no arms,Copy !req
1060. and a child is born with no arms,Copy !req
1061. What is that child to think?Copy !req
1062. Our first order business is a proposal forCopy !req
1063. a gay freedeom day in Walnut Creek.Copy !req
1064. Attention, please.Copy !req
1065. We have a select group to debate the issue.Copy !req
1066. I don't see her.Copy !req
1067. It's reverend Whitsell.Copy !req
1068. For one day,Copy !req
1069. for one day, people can celebrate their
difference rather than feel shame.Copy !req
1070. They should be ashame!Copy !req
1071. There are so many other people who
need our time and our attention.Copy !req
1072. Why are we wasting it on this?Copy !req
1073. Alright, alright. Let's have
some order here please.Copy !req
1074. They spit in the face of
decency and morality.Copy !req
1075. We cannot allow the fabric of
our society to be torn apart.Copy !req
1076. Right?Copy !req
1077. I heard he tries to run for the
Human Relations commission,Copy !req
1078. they picked that limped Whitsell instead.Copy !req
1079. They sent him a letter.Copy !req
1080. I said, 'We sing hymns at our church'.Copy !req
1081. What do you do with the
hymns at your church?Copy !req
1082. So unless anyone else has
anything else to add,Copy !req
1083. we'll adjourn to make our decision.Copy !req
1084. Mary?Copy !req
1085. Hey Dad!Copy !req
1086. Dad, get in here!Copy !req
1087. Dad hurry up! Mum's on TV.Copy !req
1088. Homosexuality is a sin.Copy !req
1089. Homosexuals are dommed to
spend eternity in hell.Copy !req
1090. If they wanted to change,Copy !req
1091. they could be healed of their evil ways.Copy !req
1092. If they would turn away from temptation,Copy !req
1093. they could be normal again.Copy !req
1094. If only they would try and try harder,Copy !req
1095. if it doesn't work.Copy !req
1096. These are all the things
I said to my son BobbyCopy !req
1097. when I found out he was gay.Copy !req
1098. When he told me he was homosexual,
my world fell apart.Copy !req
1099. I did everything I couldCopy !req
1100. to cure him of his sickness.Copy !req
1101. 8 months ago, my son...Copy !req
1102. jumped off a bridge and killed himself.Copy !req
1103. I deeply regret my lack of knowledgeCopy !req
1104. about gay and lesbian peopleCopy !req
1105. I see that everything I was taught and
told was bigotry and dehumanizing slender.Copy !req
1106. If I had investigated,
beyond what I was told,Copy !req
1107. if I had just,
listened to my son,Copy !req
1108. when he poured his heart out to me...Copy !req
1109. I would not be standing here today with youCopy !req
1110. filled with regrets.Copy !req
1111. I believeCopy !req
1112. that God was pleased with
Bobby's kind and loving spirit.Copy !req
1113. In god's eyesCopy !req
1114. kindness and love are what it's all about.Copy !req
1115. I didn't know that each time that I echoed
eternal damnation for gay people...Copy !req
1116. each time I referred to Bobby asCopy !req
1117. sick and perverted and a
danger to our children...Copy !req
1118. his self-esteem,Copy !req
1119. his sense of worth, were being destroyed.Copy !req
1120. And finally,Copy !req
1121. his spirit broke beyond repair.Copy !req
1122. It was not god's will that Bobby climbed
over the side of a freeway overpassCopy !req
1123. and jumped directly into the pathCopy !req
1124. of an 18 wheel truck which
killed him instantly.Copy !req
1125. Bobby's deathCopy !req
1126. was the direct result of his parents'
ignorance and fear of the word gay.Copy !req
1127. He wanted to be a writer.Copy !req
1128. His hopes and dreams should not have
been taken from him but they were.Copy !req
1129. They are childrenCopy !req
1130. like Bobby,Copy !req
1131. sitting in your congreggations,Copy !req
1132. unknown to you,Copy !req
1133. they will be listening,Copy !req
1134. as you echo «Amen».Copy !req
1135. And that will soon silence their prayers.Copy !req
1136. Their prayers to god,Copy !req
1137. for understanding,Copy !req
1138. and acceptance,Copy !req
1139. and for your love.Copy !req
1140. But your hatred, and fear,Copy !req
1141. and ignorance of the word «gay»
will silence those prayers.Copy !req
1142. So...Copy !req
1143. before you echo «Amen»Copy !req
1144. in your home and place of worship.Copy !req
1145. Think!Copy !req
1146. Think and remember.Copy !req
1147. A child is listening.Copy !req
1148. Oh, Mum...Copy !req
1149. Should be good.Copy !req
1150. He lost.Copy !req
1151. They voted the order install.Copy !req
1152. Well, he'll try again next year, right?Copy !req
1153. So, we're really going to San Francisco?Copy !req
1154. I think we have to.Copy !req
1155. I don't think that's a choice.Copy !req
1156. Well...Copy !req
1157. that's ironic.Copy !req
1158. Ok.Copy !req
1159. Are we late? Just in time!Copy !req
1160. Jacky, is this everyone?Copy !req
1161. Oh! Honey, no...Copy !req
1162. Come with me.Copy !req
1163. We have a special place for you.Copy !req
1164. Ok.Copy !req
1165. To all the Bobby and Janes out there...Copy !req
1166. I say these words to you as I would
with my own precious children.Copy !req
1167. Please don't give up hope on life.Copy !req
1168. Or yourselves.Copy !req
1169. You're very special to me.Copy !req
1170. I'm working very hard to make this worldCopy !req
1171. a better and safer place
for you to live in.Copy !req
1172. Promise me you'll keep trying.Copy !req
1173. Bobby gave up on love.Copy !req
1174. I hope you won't.Copy !req
1175. You're always in my gods.Copy !req
1176. My name is Bobby Griffith.Copy !req
1177. I write this in hope that one day,Copy !req
1178. many years from now,Copy !req
1179. I would be able to go backCopy !req
1180. and remember what my life was like,Copy !req
1181. when I was a young and confused adolescent,Copy !req
1182. desperately trying to understand
myself in the world I live in.Copy !req
1183. The other reason I write this,Copy !req
1184. so long after I died,Copy !req
1185. others may have a chance to read about me,Copy !req
1186. and see what my life as a
young person was like.Copy !req
1187. On December 6th 1995, Mary
Griffith testified beforeCopy !req
1188. members of the Congress
of the United States.Copy !req
1189. Her tireless work protecting the
rights of gay and lesbian youthCopy !req
1190. has established her as a major force
in the fight for human rights.Copy !req
1191. Before you echo "Amen" in your
home or place of worship,Copy !req
1192. think and remember. A child is listening.
Mary Griffith.Copy !req
1193. In loving memory of
Bobby Griffith and Leroy AaronsCopy !req