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it looks just great. Love it.
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Here you go. Thanks.
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check on her.
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seen anything like it!
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19. Hi. I'm—
I'm Mira. It's nice to meet you.
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I'm Danielle.
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— Mm-hmm.
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from drop-off?
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Jonathan told you
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in general?
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— Well, it's for my PhD
in Gender Studies and Psych
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- She, her, hers.
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Mine are she/her, too.
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- It's a big part of my
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I'm, uh, 41.
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- What?
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- Is it?
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how would you...
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- I am 40.
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to most people,
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- She's a big shot.
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responsibilities...
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- ... in that context?
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she's interested in couples
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is the primary provider.
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- Yeah,
I wouldn't exactly...
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So, for the most part,
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on the weekends.
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128. - Yeah, and you make it home
for bedtime, when you can.
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your arrangement,
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- Well, yeah. I had—
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later this year,
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so much extra travel.
- Yeah, and it's also, like,
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139. - No.
- We have our babysitter,
Veronica,
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uh, on the, you know,
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- And look, it'd be great
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as well as tech does,
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- It doesn't, no.
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- Mm-hmm.
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- Yeah. No, we're proud of it.
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- Twelve years total.
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- And how did you meet?
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Come on.
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up until college, my education
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I'd never touched a woman.
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and white button-down shirts,
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in their little tank tops.
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was like a campus celebrity.
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of a big rock band at the time,
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I'd never heard of.
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they weren't really rock,
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Saraband? Lucas McRae?
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- Uh, yeah.
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of Mira as kind of a...
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- No, no, no.
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- Yeah, it— it—
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as far away from my world
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engaged to a girl
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near Long Island.
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- Yeah.
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Enemies, A Love Story.
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this research on Orthodox Jews.
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in college.
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if I could talk to him,
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completely horrified—
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definitely a milestone.
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Not until years later.
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on her Myspace page,
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we were coming back from the ER,
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That's perfect.
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- I— I'll let you take this.
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Interesting.
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- It's become this project,
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- Mm.
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self-help books,
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about the work we do, and...
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- Hey, honey.
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- Who's that?
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- It's over.
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- Of course.
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— Why can't I watch it
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- Because, silly goose,
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but then— It's okay.
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I got it, sweetie.
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over with. Come on. I'm—
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gonna be a little longer.
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- Daddy.
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Just one second, patience.
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- Yeah. I think that
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this very delicate equilibrium
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maintain it together.
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and it's new
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that nothing can hurt you.
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- Good? Yeah.
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while she watches this one.
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it was very unexpected.
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— Basically, she asked
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- Yeah.
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- Well, maybe not for you,
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and he dragged me into it.
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- No, I didn't.
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at Ava's preschool.
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- Yeah.
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of the twins that go there.
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his theories
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- Word needs to get out.
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the younger women at pickup?
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- Uh-huh.
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- He's taking advantage
of his sexy dad factor.
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She's a student. Please.
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what is the research about?
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I'm totally kidding.
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419. I think that— I think
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420. her thesis is basically that
Copy !req
421. when the woman
is the primary provider
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422. and the man
is the primary caregiver,
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423. the marriage has
a greater chance of "success."
Copy !req
424. — Mm.
— Really?
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425. Yeah.
Copy !req
426. Apparently, there's research
that says that the woman's
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427. level of satisfaction
is the crucial element
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428. in determining the long-term
stability of a marriage.
Copy !req
429. Huh. You hear that, Kate?
Copy !req
430. - Loud and clear.
Copy !req
431. Anyway,
why is she choosing
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432. to follow long-term
monogamous couples?
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433. I would expect more out of
a millennial psych student.
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434. - Yeah, apparently, uh,
Copy !req
435. divorce has been researched
to death, so...
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436. Yeah, but there's so many
other relationship models.
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437. I mean, it's a new era.
Copy !req
438. - Take us, for example.
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439. - She should have met with us.
- Yeah. Well, you know, I'm happy
to give her your number, Peter,
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440. if you're interested, as she's
desperate for research subjects.
Copy !req
441. By all means. I think she could
benefit a lot from us.
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442. Wait. But she's interested in
successful marriages.
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443. I think that rules us out, baby.
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444. - That's...
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445. I don't think that's true.
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446. Okay. Hey. I'm sorry.
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447. Wait. So how was,
uh, how was Boulder?
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448. - Oh, yeah.
- It was good.
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449. We— we won the pitch.
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450. - Hey, that's great.
- No!
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451. - Cheers. Congrats. Fantastic.
- Thank you, guys.
Copy !req
452. Yeah, actually, we killed it.
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453. You know, I don't think
they were, uh,
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454. looking for a boutique company,
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455. but they fell in love
with Kate's demos.
Copy !req
456. Of course they did.
She's a genius.
Copy !req
457. There's no better web designer
on the entire East Coast.
Copy !req
458. - No.
- I've said that
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459. - multiple times.
- No argument here.
Copy !req
460. And, you know, I didn't fuck up
the presentation too badly, so.
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461. - Well, good. Good on you.
- You sure? You sure?
Copy !req
462. We were
a well-oiled machine.
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463. That's great, guys.
I'm jealous of you.
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464. I am. I get jealous of them.
I just think that, like,
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465. a couple that can
work together is—
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466. Don't be too jealous.
Copy !req
467. No, I'm sure it's not
always easy, but when it works,
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468. - that's like the paradigm.
- Easy? I mean, the fact that
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469. we got through Boulder without
killing each other is a miracle.
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470. Let's not do this now, Kate.
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471. - Why not?
What's the problem?
- This is not the time for it.
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472. Okay. So, when we're alone,
it's not the time either.
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473. Maybe you can give some thought
to when the right time might be.
Copy !req
474. - Just stop, okay?
- Okay. Fine.
Copy !req
475. Okay. Let's go home.
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476. - No! What are you talking about?
- We're playing make-believe.
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477. - Kate. Let's not ruin it.
- Don't leave.
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478. - What's going on, Peter?
- It's nothing important,
Copy !req
479. it's just the usual
drama about...
Copy !req
480. Don't say it's not
important. No. Fuck you.
Copy !req
481. Okay.
Copy !req
482. What's going on...
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483. is Nathan broke up with me,
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484. and I'm extremely depressed
about it.
Copy !req
485. Peter can't deal with it.
He won't talk about it.
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486. So that's what's going on. And—
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487. - Kate. Cut it out.
- Uh-uh, uh-uh, uh-uh.
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488. Cut it out?
You cut it out. All of these—
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489. I'm so sick of this
social fascism.
Copy !req
490. - Social fascism.
- All these bullshit
empty conversations.
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491. I'm allowed
to talk about everything
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492. but the most important thing
going on in my life.
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493. I'm not gonna do it anymore.
Copy !req
494. Maybe they don't really
feel like hearing about it,
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495. - have you considered that?
- No, no.
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496. You're the only one that doesn't
wanna hear about it.
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497. Because you'd rather wallow
in your passive-aggressive
bullshit resentment,
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498. you can't
admit that you're hurting,
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499. that it hurts,
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500. - and just talk to me about it.
- Yeah, I'm hurt, okay?
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501. I'm very hurt. I admit it. Okay.
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502. - Can we end this now?
- Okay. No, we can't end this.
Copy !req
503. And I won't live like this.
Okay?
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504. When we started this, we said
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505. that we would talk about
everything, and I was there
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506. through all your shit
with Alana, Grace.
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507. I accepted that.
I dealt with that.
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508. And now suddenly
when I'm the one that's going
through something,
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509. it's like
my feelings aren't legitimate.
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510. I never fell in love
with anyone else.
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511. That's the difference.
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512. Okay.
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513. So what if I... fell in love?
Copy !req
514. That was supposed to be a part
of the risk we both accepted.
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515. I'm not leaving, I'm here,
I'm dealing with it.
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516. - Sorry.
- It's okay. No, no, no.
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517. - Oh, God.
- It's all right.
Copy !req
518. So you care more about
what they think about you
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519. than what I'm going through
right now.
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520. - You're so pathetic.
- I think it's a real competition
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521. as to who's most pathetic
right now.
Copy !req
522. Let's take a break.
I'm gonna go upstairs.
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523. Why don't you come upstairs
with me?
Copy !req
524. I'm gonna call a car.
You do whatever you want.
Copy !req
525. - Hey.
- I'm sorry.
Copy !req
526. - No, no.
- I couldn't hold it
together anymore.
Copy !req
527. - I get it.
- That whole dinner,
he was just...
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528. I know.
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529. It's been like this all week
since I talked to you.
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530. I'm sorry
I haven't been here.
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531. - When did your flight get in?
- Last night.
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532. Do you have an Advil?
My head's killing me.
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533. In my bathroom. I'm just gonna
check on Ava for a second.
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534. I'll be right there.
Copy !req
535. Revisionist history, you know?
Copy !req
536. She was a mess,
I was holding things together.
Copy !req
537. - Did you find it?
- Yeah.
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538. So, it ended with Nathan,
completely?
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539. Yeah. For good.
Copy !req
540. - I'm sorry.
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541. Oh, girl. Yeah.
He said he's exhausted
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542. from living a double life.
Copy !req
543. The irony is a double life's
the only life
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544. I know how to live.
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545. Right.
Copy !req
546. Mira, this past week,
I can barely get out of bed.
Copy !req
547. Literally.
It's not getting any better.
Copy !req
548. And Peter just sulks all day
like a child. And...
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549. When he's not doing
this phony chipper thing
Copy !req
550. that makes me
wanna strangle him.
Copy !req
551. And then I have these outbursts
of hatred for him
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552. where I'm just...
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553. I find myself in bed...
Copy !req
554. thinking of the craziest ways
to torture him
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555. and then fucking kill him.
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556. - I don't know.
- Mm-hmm.
Copy !req
557. Perhaps it's time to reconsider
this arrangement.
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558. This arrangement?
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559. I'm—
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560. You gotta remember
this whole thing started
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561. so Peter could justify
his cheating.
Copy !req
562. This is just— It doesn't matter
how it started.
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563. This is the way that we found
to, you know, get through it,
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564. and I don't regret it.
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565. Mm.
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566. I don't.
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567. - I don't— Kate.
- It's been good for us.
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568. I don't remember ever wanting
to fuck Peter
Copy !req
569. as much as
when I was with Nathan.
Copy !req
570. I'm serious. I wore him out.
Copy !req
571. - Okay.
- Do you know how good it felt
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572. to actually want my husband?
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573. You know, this is real.
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574. This is my life, Mira.
It's not some whim.
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575. I mean, what I had with Nathan,
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576. I don't remember
ever feeling so alive.
Copy !req
577. And so, okay, it also means
feeling this terrible pain.
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578. It's part of the deal.
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579. You're really
suffering though, honey.
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580. Hmm.
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581. What would be better?
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582. There were at least three years
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583. when I didn't have sex
with Peter.
Copy !req
584. - I know.
- Yeah.
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585. Does that seem
reasonable to you?
Copy !req
586. Life without any passion,
right? Kind of like—
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587. Well, passion, okay,
it's awesome,
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588. uh, but, you know,
it's not sustainable.
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589. We're not 16 anymore.
You can't—
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590. What does 16
have to do with anything?
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591. Did you renounce passion
at the age of 16?
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592. No, I'm not saying
that I renounced it.
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593. Don't start quoting
Jonathan's theories
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594. - about marriage.
- I'm not quoting him.
Copy !req
595. No, I— I'm saying that, okay,
this open relationship
Copy !req
596. - comes at a price for everybody.
- Of course it does.
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597. And... it can't be easy
for your kids, right?
Copy !req
598. Well, it's not easy
for any kid, Mira.
Copy !req
599. I mean...
Copy !req
600. Honestly, in the long run,
I think that it's actually...
Copy !req
601. very empowering for them
Copy !req
602. to see me always searching
for freedom and happiness.
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603. I don't know,
self-actualization?
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604. It's absolutely something
that I want to model for them.
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605. Especially Anna.
Copy !req
606. Okay.
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607. I'm not judging you, honey.
I'm not.
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608. Yeah.
Copy !req
609. And I'm on your side
always. You know that, right?
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610. I know. I do.
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611. I'm sorry. Here.
Copy !req
612. - Mm.
- No, no, no.
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613. Hmm.
Copy !req
614. Oh, this day. It's just, like,
it's so much. It's...
Copy !req
615. Wait, is something wrong?
Copy !req
616. No, it's just, uh...
Copy !req
617. It's just a lot of pressure, so.
Copy !req
618. What kind of pressure?
Copy !req
619. No, it's nothing. Forget it.
Copy !req
620. What?
Copy !req
621. Nothing, I just—
I'm sorry I lost it.
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622. I think it's okay.
That was crazy.
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623. Girl.
Copy !req
624. - You're such a good friend. Hey.
- Aw.
Copy !req
625. And you're stunning.
Copy !req
626. I don't...
Copy !req
627. - Not sure where what came from.
Copy !req
628. I think I'm pretty drunk.
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629. Um...
Copy !req
630. - Okay. You good?
- Yeah.
Copy !req
631. - Do you wanna go downstairs?
- Okay.
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632. - Mm. Yeah.
Copy !req
633. Hang on.
Copy !req
634. - Okay, come on.
- Okay.
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635. Oh, no, no, no,
you got it backwards.
Copy !req
636. It was— it was— it was she
who made the sale.
Copy !req
637. I get that, but you
did your fair share of the work.
Copy !req
638. She is a ball buster.
Copy !req
639. - She can be
really fucking scary.
- Oh my God.
Copy !req
640. And she's a—
she's a true artist, right?
Copy !req
641. - I'll call a car.
- She's a certifiable
genius. She's gorgeous.
Copy !req
642. I'm just gonna clean up a bit.
Copy !req
643. I don't know why she even
ever let me between her legs,
Copy !req
644. this paragon of perfection.
Copy !req
645. Hi. I need a car
Copy !req
646. at 206 Abbottsford Road
in Brookline.
Copy !req
647. When I sleep with
other women, it's because, uh,
Copy !req
648. it's only because
it makes me feel...
Copy !req
649. You know, it's—
it has nothing to do
Copy !req
650. with falling in love.
It's the only way—
Copy !req
651. It's the only way
that I can, uh...
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652. No, it does—
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653. You know, I know—
I know I'm the one who—
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654. Peter, I called us a car.
Neither one of us can drive.
Copy !req
655. — Mm-hmm. Yeah.
— Do you want coffee
or anything?
Copy !req
656. - Are you okay?
- Yeah, I'm good. Yeah.
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657. Yeah, I was just, uh...
Copy !req
658. I was just trying
to explain to him
Copy !req
659. how you and I decided to, uh...
Copy !req
660. And I, you know, I was saying
that just ignoring the fact
Copy !req
661. that you have options
doesn't make them go away.
Copy !req
662. - Right? Right?
- Yeah.
Copy !req
663. You know, or another way
of saying it is,
Copy !req
664. you know, if the only reason
that you're faithful
Copy !req
665. is because it's like
a rational decision,
Copy !req
666. - well, that's not sustainable.
- Why not?
Copy !req
667. Well, because it's just a matter
of the right woman, right time
Copy !req
668. - when it finally happens, right?
- Oh, okay.
Copy !req
669. So I don't have a choice
in the matter?
Copy !req
670. No, you don't.
Copy !req
671. Because, I mean, this force...
Copy !req
672. - I'm tired.
- ... call it Eros or whatever,
Copy !req
673. you know, it's far more powerful
than your own will.
Copy !req
674. The car is on the way.
Copy !req
675. You better start
getting ready, okay?
Copy !req
676. Just a second.
You understand what I'm saying?
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677. It depends on who you are.
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678. - No, it doesn't! It doesn't!
- Shh. Peter.
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679. - Quiet.
- I'm sorry.
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680. I think it's just—
it's a longer conversation.
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681. No, tell me, I wanna hear.
Copy !req
682. I think maybe it's just because
of the way that I was raised.
Copy !req
683. - What do you mean?
- Well, you know, in...
Copy !req
684. the first 20 years of your life,
Copy !req
685. you're taught to conquer
your desires,
Copy !req
686. - not surrender to them.
- Dude.
Copy !req
687. - What?
- That's grotesque.
Copy !req
688. Maybe.
Copy !req
689. I mean,
that level of repression,
Copy !req
690. it's like from the Middle Ages.
Copy !req
691. I'm not defending it.
Copy !req
692. I'm just saying
that it's ingrained in me.
Copy !req
693. Hey, babe, where is your jacket?
Copy !req
694. - Just a second.
- We need to get ready.
Copy !req
695. You really need
to start shaking that off.
Copy !req
696. - Or it's gonna take
a major toll on you.
- Peter.
Copy !req
697. Not just mentally,
I mean,
Copy !req
698. physically
and spiritually, and...
Copy !req
699. - The car is almost here.
- Yeah, I heard you!
Copy !req
700. - He can wait a minute!
- Shh.
Copy !req
701. Shit.
Copy !req
702. — Here.
— I'm sorry.
Copy !req
703. - I'm really sorry.
- I call you tomorrow.
Copy !req
704. - Mira, I'm sorry.
- Yeah.
Copy !req
705. I'm sorry.
I apologize.
Copy !req
706. - Bye. Night.
- No worries.
It's all right.
Copy !req
707. — Is she mad at me?
— Peter, let's go.
Copy !req
708. It's fine. It's fine.
It's just a long day.
Copy !req
709. All right, guys.
Thanks for coming.
Copy !req
710. — Okay.
— Don't worry about it.
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711. So we'll come back
for our car tomorrow?
Copy !req
712. — Uh, is it that one?
— No, it's across
the street.
Copy !req
713. You're welcome. Bye.
Copy !req
714. I'll be right there.
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715. Sorry I left you down there.
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716. It's okay, sweetie.
Copy !req
717. I couldn't take it anymore.
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718. Yeah,
he was really drunk.
Copy !req
719. It was tragic.
Copy !req
720. Tragic, why?
Copy !req
721. Why?
Copy !req
722. Yeah. It's not like we
haven't seen that before.
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723. She's really suffering.
I'm telling you.
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724. Yeah,
I could see that, but—
Copy !req
725. The sad thing is they're
basically a good couple
Copy !req
726. if he hadn't roped her in
all his adolescent bullshit.
Copy !req
727. Yeah?
Copy !req
728. You sure it's him
that roped her?
Copy !req
729. Oh, come on.
It's not who she is,
Copy !req
730. - this whole polyamory thing.
Copy !req
731. I think they both get to...
Copy !req
732. feed off of the drama,
you know?
Copy !req
733. Mm. Well, you get a kick
out of it, don't you?
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734. You must admit, darling,
it is diverting.
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735. Whatever.
Copy !req
736. What is it?
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737. Oh, don't look so scared.
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738. I'm not.
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739. What's going on?
Copy !req
740. I'm pregnant.
Copy !req
741. - What?
- Yeah.
Copy !req
742. Wow.
Copy !req
743. Mira.
Copy !req
744. How?
Copy !req
745. Uh, well, that weekend.
The Cape.
Copy !req
746. Yeah, I forgot my pills,
so I missed a couple days.
Copy !req
747. Why didn't you tell me
you forgot your pills?
Copy !req
748. Well, I didn't think
that it mattered if we...
Copy !req
749. Well, it shouldn't be so easy
to get knocked up at my age.
Copy !req
750. I took a...
Copy !req
751. Well, I was late for my period,
Copy !req
752. so I took a test this afternoon,
and there was a faint blue line.
Copy !req
753. Okay, so it's a faint line,
so maybe...
Copy !req
754. No, I took a picture
of the stick
Copy !req
755. and sent it to my doctors.
Copy !req
756. I'm pregnant.
Copy !req
757. - Wow.
- Yeah.
Copy !req
758. - Wow.
- Yeah. I've got an appointment
Copy !req
759. with her next week. Dr. Varona.
Copy !req
760. Okay.
Copy !req
761. - Are you happy? Yeah?
- Yes, of course. I'm happy. Yes.
Copy !req
762. I'm just a little— I'm stunned.
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763. God, me too.
Copy !req
764. I mean,
I have no idea what to do.
Copy !req
765. What do you mean?
Copy !req
766. Nothing. Nothing.
I just— I don't know. It's...
Copy !req
767. If we do this,
so much is gonna fall on you.
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768. Yeah. Yeah.
Copy !req
769. So, what do you feel?
Copy !req
770. Well, I don't know.
I wanted to know how you felt.
Copy !req
771. No, no, forget about me
for a second.
Copy !req
772. What do you feel?
Copy !req
773. I don't know.
Copy !req
774. - Okay.
Copy !req
775. Well, try to think about
how you felt
Copy !req
776. the second that you realized.
Copy !req
777. - Try to remember.
- Fine.
Copy !req
778. I felt shocked.
Copy !req
779. And, um, then I had to...
Copy !req
780. come downstairs
for that interview,
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781. so I buried it. And now...
Copy !req
782. I guess I...
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783. I don't know.
Copy !req
784. Come on.
You can be honest with me.
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785. Anything that you feel is
legitimate.
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786. I don't know how I feel.
Copy !req
787. How am I supposed
to be honest about that?
Copy !req
788. Sorry.
Copy !req
789. Just trying to figure out
how this could have happened.
Copy !req
790. Yeah.
Copy !req
791. Maybe the sex
had something to do with it.
Copy !req
792. Yeah.
Copy !req
793. Hey, what if— what if we
think about this in,
Copy !req
794. I don't know,
like a slightly more...
Copy !req
795. deterministic way?
Copy !req
796. You know, like,
it's the Lord's doing, right?
Copy !req
797. - What?
- Not in a religious sense.
Copy !req
798. - Not in a religious sense.
- Okay.
Copy !req
799. I just mean, like, I mean,
you know, okay,
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800. you forgot your pills.
Copy !req
801. Uh-huh.
Copy !req
802. And you still...?
Copy !req
803. Yeah.
Copy !req
804. And you
immediately got pregnant.
Copy !req
805. So is it possible that
there's a part of you that—
Copy !req
806. wanted this or thought
that we should have this?
Copy !req
807. Where is this coming from?
Copy !req
808. - It's so...
- I know, I know.
Copy !req
809. I mean, if you're—
if you're trying to say
Copy !req
810. that you want
to keep it, just say that.
Copy !req
811. Well...
Copy !req
812. I...
Copy !req
813. I— It's what we talked
about originally.
Copy !req
814. Yeah. But originally,
it was completely abstract.
Copy !req
815. I mean, it was...
Copy !req
816. before we knew anything
about anything,
Copy !req
817. it was before Ava,
Copy !req
818. before we knew
what it was actually like.
Copy !req
819. What?
Copy !req
820. You...
Copy !req
821. - You wanna keep it, right?
- I think so. Yeah, I think so.
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822. I think we can handle it,
but only if it's something
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823. that you really, really want
and would be happy about.
Copy !req
824. I think so.
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825. I think I might.
Copy !req
826. Ava will be thrilled.
Copy !req
827. - Yeah.
Copy !req
828. And your parents.
Copy !req
829. Oh, God. Yeah. Yeah.
Copy !req
830. So, are we going for this?
Oh, my God.
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831. Um... yeah?
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832. - Yeah.
- Yeah. Come here.
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833. - Okay.
- Come here.
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834. You okay?
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835. Here.
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836. Don't...
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837. Don't look at me like that.
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838. This is—
this doesn't mean anything.
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839. - Right.
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840. - It only means you're panicking.
- It doesn't mean I'm panicking.
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841. - I had a lot to drink.
- Yeah, hmm.
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842. But you know what, even if
I was panicking, so what?
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843. This is a really big deal, okay?
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844. This is irreversible,
what we're talking about here.
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845. - Mm-hmm.
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846. What?
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847. You know, it just sucks
that neither one of us
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848. could be completely happy
and confident about this—
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849. Yeah, but— that's because I see
how ambivalent you are about it.
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850. - Well, yeah.
Of course I'm ambivalent.
- Yeah.
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851. I mean, you remember
those first two years with Ava?
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852. - Yeah.
- Thinking about jumping back
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853. into that nightmare.
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854. Yeah. I was there too.
I remember.
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855. I know you were. I know
you've been an amazing partner,
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856. but you don't—
you couldn't, like—
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857. I couldn't— I couldn't be
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858. - where you were.
- No, you could not.
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859. I couldn't be
in your place. I know.
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860. You tried and...
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861. But you couldn't.
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862. I took that out on you.
I took it—
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863. I was just awful to you.
I was awful.
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864. We— we talked about it,
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865. and I understood
where that came from.
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866. - You know?
- I know you understood,
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867. but you were also hurt.
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868. That's why you become distant,
and I hated you
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869. for being distant, and I hated
myself even more for...
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870. being so shitty to you.
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871. - I felt like a terrible mom.
- Oh, sweetie, I...
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872. That was a nightmare for you.
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873. It was a nightmare
for both of us.
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874. Yeah.
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875. And it took so long to, like...
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876. feel like myself again,
you know?
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877. And now we're good, and...
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878. And Ava's so good, and...
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879. Especially
when she's with you, she's—
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880. - Aw, come on.
- Kidding.
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881. It's just like I finally...
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882. returned to my life.
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883. I feel so guilty
about what I'm saying.
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884. Sweetie, you shouldn't
feel guilty.
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885. It makes perfect sense,
you know?
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886. Yeah.
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887. It's like, um...
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888. all of a sudden,
everything is unreal.
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889. Everything that we had,
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890. you, you're not real.
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891. Ava isn't. It's just—
it's this thing.
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892. It's this pregnancy.
It's the only thing that's real.
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893. - It's...
- Hey, Mira.
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894. Yeah.
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895. - Babe.
- What?
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896. Mm.
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897. It's painful wanting something
and not wanting it
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898. at the same time.
You know?
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899. Yeah, yeah.
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900. But think about it.
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901. - Yeah.
- When Ava was a baby,
we had no perspective at all.
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902. We thought it was
gonna be like that forever.
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903. - Right.
- And now we see
that it passes, right?
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904. - It gets better. Right?
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905. - That's true.
- Yeah.
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906. You know, Ava's totally obsessed
with having a little sister.
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907. - Yeah.
- If it's...
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908. a boy, that'll be rough.
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909. Well, it'll have to
be a girl then.
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910. We'll raise it a girl,
regardless.
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911. Either way, they're gonna want
their own rooms eventually.
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912. Mm-hmm.
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913. But it should be a pretty easy
renovation, you know,
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914. to divide Ava's room in half.
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915. We'll have to steal a little
square footage from the hallway,
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916. put up a little drywall, right?
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917. Sure.
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918. I love you.
You know that, right?
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919. Yes, I do.
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920. - DR. Yup, come in.
- Hi? Sorry. Am I late? I'm late.
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921. It's fine. We just, uh—
we're just starting out.
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922. - Sorry. Sorry.
- DR. Yeah, no problem.
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923. - Nice... nice to see you.
- Good to see you.
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924. DR.So, I was just
starting to explain
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925. - the procedure to Mira.
- Great.
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926. DR.
As I said, you'll take
the mifepristone here today,
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927. and that blocks
your progesterone,
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928. effectively ending
the pregnancy.
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929. And then I'll send you home
with four pills of misoprostol,
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930. and that'll bring on
contractions.
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931. - Mm-hmm.
- So that can be not so fun.
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932. You'll have cramping
and heavy bleeding.
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933. You'll pass some large clots,
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934. and you might have nausea,
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935. vomiting, diarrhea, dizziness,
and in rare cases, fever.
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936. It's like a stomach virus.
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937. Great.
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938. DR.
So that's all normal.
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939. But if you have any side effects
that worry you, just call.
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940. Does it still seem
like what you wanna do?
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941. Yeah.
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942. DR. While you're here,
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943. do you wanna talk
about contraception,
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944. since the pill
wasn't your friend this time?
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945. Yeah, I was just
saying to Jonathan
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946. that I was amazed that, um,
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947. could still have an accident
at my age.
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948. You'll be...
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949. - 40 in November, right?
- Mm-hmm.
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950. DR. Yeah.
That's gonna keep
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951. - getting less likely.
- Yeah, totally.
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952. DR.
But in the meantime—
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953. So there are a bunch
of long-term options.
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954. There's Implanon,
which is an arm insert.
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955. - I could place that here today.
- Mm-hmm.
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956. DR. And there are IUDs,
the ParaGard,
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957. which is plain copper,
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958. or the Mirena,
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959. which is very popular,
it's a hormone-releasing IUD.
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960. Maybe the copper one.
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961. It would be nice to give
my body a break
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962. - from all those hormones.
- DR.Mm-hmm.
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963. Yeah. Well, I can place that
at your follow-up.
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964. - And, uh, you can think about it
a little more.
- Okay.
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965. DR.
For now, just throw out
your current package of pills
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966. and start a new one tomorrow.
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967. - Okay?
- Yeah.
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968. DR. Any questions?
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969. Nope.
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970. DR. Okay.
I'm gonna go get the medicine.
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971. Okay.
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972. She has to warn us
about the symptoms,
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973. but it's, uh,
it's the simplest procedure.
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974. Yeah. Yeah. No, I know. I know.
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975. I'm gonna get us
something to drink.
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976. Diet Coke, is that good?
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977. No, I don't need—
I don't need anything.
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978. No, I'll get us one.
There's a vending machine
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979. right outside the door.
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980. Um, yeah.
I'll be right back, okay?
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981. Uh, fine.
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982. Hey? I'll be right there.
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983. Okay.
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984. Hey. So, they only had Pepsi.
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985. - Is that okay?
- That's fine.
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986. - It's all right?
- Mm-hmm.
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987. I'm sure
there's, like, a cup
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988. around here somewhere.
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989. No, it's fine. I'll just
drink it straight from the can.
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990. I'm sure there's something.
Maybe here.
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991. Jonathan.
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992. Oh, I think
there's something here.
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993. Come here for a second.
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994. Oh, fuck,
it's a urine sample cup.
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995. Okay. Come over here.
Sit down for a second.
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996. Look at me.
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997. Are you okay?
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998. - Yeah.
- Are you mad?
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999. Am I mad? No.
Why would I be mad?
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1000. Are you having
second thoughts?
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1001. No.
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1002. - No?
- No, no, no, no. I...
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1003. - I don't—
- I'm just—
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1004. I don't why
I'm feeling like this.
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1005. I didn't expect
to feel like that.
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1006. No, it's okay, honey.
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1007. - It's fine.
- Yeah.
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1008. You know, I'm— it's not easy
for me either.
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1009. No, no, no, no, no.
Of course. Of course. Uh...
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1010. Sorry, I'm not, um, trying
to make— No, yeah.
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1011. I know you— you're the one that
has to— has to go through it.
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1012. We're making
the right decision here.
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1013. We talked about it.
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1014. I don't think there's a single
angle that we haven't covered
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1015. over the last ten days.
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1016. Yeah, I don't—
I don't think there is.
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1017. Yeah.
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1018. You know, I was thinking
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1019. we could still go ahead
with the renovation.
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1020. - You know? Like—
- No.
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1021. Yeah. Like, we can move
Ava's play area into her room
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1022. and, you know, make your study
back the way that it was before.
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1023. That's never gonna work.
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1024. She's gonna reclaim it
within hours.
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1025. Well, then we use the attic.
I mean, we always said that
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1026. we were gonna get to that
eventually.
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1027. I'm okay.
I'm good where my office is.
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1028. - I don't need—
- Well, I have a vision.
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1029. - Just, you know, leave it to me.
- Okay, okay. Okay.
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1030. - You're gonna thank me.
- Okay. Okay.
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1031. - Oh.
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1032. - DR. Sorry about that.
- It's okay.
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1033. - Here you go.
- Thanks.
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1034. DR. Okay.
And here's the misoprostol
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1035. that you will take at home
tomorrow.
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1036. Mm-hmm.
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1037. DR. Take some ibuprofen
about an hour before you put
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1038. the tablets in your cheek, okay?
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1039. All right. Here you go.
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1040. - Mm-hmm.
- See you in a couple weeks.
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1041. — Okay.
— Thank you.
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1042. Oh.
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1043. - Are you okay?
- Yeah.
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1044. I feel a little nauseous.
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1045. I'm fine. It's fine.
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1046. I'm sure, um, it's just
the power of suggestion.
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1047. DR. Just rest
until it passes, okay?
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1048. If you do vomit, you'll have to
take the medicine again.
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1049. I'll ask the nurse to check in
on you in a bit.
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1050. - Okay. Feel better.
- Hmm.
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1051. - You okay?
- Mm-mm.
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1052. Okay.
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1053. I feel awful.
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1054. I'm sure you'll feel better
tomorrow.
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1055. Why don't you go home to Ava?
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1056. - I'll take a car home.
- No, no. No way.
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1057. I'm staying here.
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1058. - Veronica's with Ava. She's—
- Jonathan, I—
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1059. What?
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1060. I'd like to be alone
for a little bit. Is that okay?
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1061. - Yeah.
- Yeah?
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1062. Of course. Of course.
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1063. Here, I'll leave this
right here, okay?
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1064. Yup. You're not—
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1065. - You're sure it's fine?
- Yes, of course, sweetie.
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1066. It's fine. It's fine.
I'm totally fine, yeah.
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1067. - I'll go do a little work
in the waiting...
- Mm-hmm.
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1068. room over there, okay?
And you just come out
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1069. - whenever you're ready.
- Yeah, just—
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1070. - it won't be long.
- Yeah. Take your time.
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1071. - I've got my phone, so...
- Okay.
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