1. You blew up my cottage.Copy !req
2. You bought a houseCopy !req
3. without talking about it
to me first.Copy !req
4. John!Copy !req
5. You can't
go rogue like that.Copy !req
6. We're lucky we didn't
get another fail.Copy !req
7. Okay.Copy !req
8. John, you want
to bring kids into this lifeCopy !req
9. after a day like we had today?Copy !req
10. - What about family? What...
- I didn't thinkCopy !req
11. you were that simpleminded,
like, that traditional.Copy !req
12. Don't call me stupid
just 'cause...Copy !req
13. So you're mad
that I saved the day?Copy !req
14. I'm mad that you
take all the credit.Copy !req
15. We made this pact that we wouldCopy !req
16. make a certain amount of money
and thenCopy !req
17. we'd part ways.Copy !req
18. Yeah, like, you two can just...Copy !req
19. you know, break up
and quit, like...Copy !req
20. Can you imagine if the Company
was that open-minded?Copy !req
21. - Hey.
- Hi.Copy !req
22. - This place is beautiful.
- Yeah.Copy !req
23. - It's so nice that you work from here.
- Thank you.Copy !req
24. Thank you. We finally
moved out of the city.Copy !req
25. This is my little dream home.Copy !req
26. - Well, it's gorgeous.
- Yeah. - Thank you. I just...Copy !req
27. I feel very present here.Copy !req
28. It's really nice.Copy !req
29. - It's awesome.
- Yeah.Copy !req
30. - Yeah.
- So...Copy !req
31. what brings you to therapy?Copy !req
32. Um...Copy !req
33. I think...Copy !req
34. lately, me and Jane have...Copy !req
35. h-have not been aligned
on, just, some things.Copy !req
36. - Mm-hmm.
- Yeah. I think, um...Copy !req
37. I think John's
under the impressionCopy !req
38. that our boss favors me.Copy !req
39. - Well, he-he does.
- But...Copy !req
40. - I mean, h-he does favor...
- Well...Copy !req
41. He doesn't really fa... I...Copy !req
42. I mean, well,
he-he wanted you to replace me.Copy !req
43. - He asked you if... to replace me.
- To which I-I said,Copy !req
44. "Absolutely not," you know?Copy !req
45. I said, "John is
a great partner,"Copy !req
46. which is true, um...Copy !req
47. and, yeah, I just, I...Copy !req
48. I said I don't want to move up
unless I'm with him.Copy !req
49. - So you two work together?
- Yes.Copy !req
50. And what is it that you two do?Copy !req
51. - We're...
- We're computer, uh,Copy !req
52. - software engineers.
- Software engineers.Copy !req
53. So, where else
are you feeling misaligned?Copy !req
54. Um...Copy !req
55. on kid stuff.Copy !req
56. - Kid stuff.
- Yeah.Copy !req
57. That's a very big subject.Copy !req
58. Yeah.Copy !req
59. Let's talk about kids.Copy !req
60. - Yeah.
- Okay.Copy !req
61. Do you...Copy !req
62. Um, I-I w...
I want to have them...Copy !req
63. - Mm-hmm.
- ... and she doesn't.Copy !req
64. - Hmm. Hmm.
- Yeah.Copy !req
65. What are you reservations
about children, Jane?Copy !req
66. I f... I...Copy !req
67. I just feel like,
in the line of work that we do,Copy !req
68. it doesn't really
feel responsible.Copy !req
69. As software engineers?Copy !req
70. - Yeah. I think they're just the...
- Yeah.Copy !req
71. - It's stressful, you know?
- You know,Copy !req
72. - it's just a fast-moving business.
- It's high-intensity.Copy !req
73. I had no idea software
engineering was so intense.Copy !req
74. Yeah, there's a lot of...Copy !req
75. - pressure.
- It can be.Copy !req
76. So, working together,Copy !req
77. - living together...
- Mm.Copy !req
78. How is that?Copy !req
79. - It's good.
- It's tricky.Copy !req
80. Oh.Copy !req
81. - Tricky?
- It's okay.Copy !req
82. This is, this is...
this happens.Copy !req
83. It's why we're here.Copy !req
84. Well, can I ask
how it's tricky?Copy !req
85. Or in-in what way
does it feel...Copy !req
86. - Tricky?
- ... tricky to you?Copy !req
87. - Why?
- Well...Copy !req
88. it's one of those thingsCopy !req
89. where I feel like
her default is...Copy !req
90. to be controlling.Copy !req
91. - Hmm.
- Controlling of the situation.Copy !req
92. That's really interesting.Copy !req
93. I don't agree.Copy !req
94. I think, uh,
that feels a little unfair.Copy !req
95. I just, that's how I feel.Copy !req
96. And I feel like
that's unfair to say.Copy !req
97. Can you give me an example?Copy !req
98. - Yeah, uh...
- Contextualize it for bothCopy !req
99. - Jane and myself?
- Yeah, uh...Copy !req
100. You know, like, the thing
we did the other w...Copy !req
101. the weekend.Copy !req
102. How many?Copy !req
103. Three. Only one
that seems to be armed.Copy !req
104. The dude in the yellow.Copy !req
105. I want to take the lead
on this one.Copy !req
106. You want
to take the lead on this?Copy !req
107. Are you sure you can handle it?Copy !req
108. Yeah.Copy !req
109. Got to show my stuff for Hihi.Copy !req
110. If I have any problems,Copy !req
111. you'll hear me and I'll say,
"I have to use the bathroom."Copy !req
112. That's a horrible idea.Copy !req
113. What if you actually have
to use the bathroom?Copy !req
114. I won't actually have
to use the bathroom.Copy !req
115. It's a half-hour job, tops.Copy !req
116. Was this
work-related,Copy !req
117. or were these just
friends of yours, John?Copy !req
118. They were clientsCopy !req
119. that we were
trying to, you know,Copy !req
120. we were trying
to close a deal with them.Copy !req
121. - Or c... yeah, court.
- Yeah.Copy !req
122. And did you sign them?Copy !req
123. What'd you say
your name again was?Copy !req
124. - John?
- Yeah, John.Copy !req
125. I didn't know Lif had
any cousins in New York.Copy !req
126. He don't talk about family?Copy !req
127. Nah.Copy !req
128. Yeah, that's Khalif.Copy !req
129. Call.Copy !req
130. Don't eat those, man.
They're, like, a year old, bro.Copy !req
131. Peanut butter in a pretzelCopy !req
132. is, like, the perfect combo.Copy !req
133. Shit, it's weird it's not
more of a staple snack.Copy !req
134. They don't
got good branding.Copy !req
135. You know,
branding is everything.Copy !req
136. I was just talking
to my mains about cops.Copy !req
137. Now, they got good branding.
You know, that's what...Copy !req
138. even Michelle Obama,
she was like,Copy !req
139. "I wish the presidency
had a promo budget."Copy !req
140. Because optics are everything.
The way people come to youCopy !req
141. - is the way people see you, you know?
- Mm.Copy !req
142. And cops have
really good branding.Copy !req
143. Black people
need better branding.Copy !req
144. Shit, that copaganda,
man, is real.Copy !req
145. And they don't slip up a lot.Copy !req
146. And when
they do slip,Copy !req
147. they make you forget
about that shit fast as fuck.Copy !req
148. - Mm-hmm.
- Have them doing them little TikTok dancesCopy !req
149. - next day at the crime scene and shit.
- I know, yeah.Copy !req
150. They be sitting there like...Copy !req
151. That's what I'm saying, nigga.Copy !req
152. - That's what I'm saying.
- He was taking forever.Copy !req
153. No, you just don't like that I
was doing it well without you.Copy !req
154. - That...
- That's what... That's the problem.Copy !req
155. Oh, and you feel
that this bothers Jane?Copy !req
156. I know it does.
I mean...Copy !req
157. if we're being honest,
I was bondingCopy !req
158. with Black people...Copy !req
159. - Oh, my God.
- ... and it was somethingCopy !req
160. that she can't do as well.Copy !req
161. So I had access in a wayCopy !req
162. that she will never have,
and it bothered her.Copy !req
163. You were in there with these
guys, they were just talkingCopy !req
164. about different kinds
of girls and w-wh...Copy !req
165. - submissive girls, I mean...
- No.Copy !req
166. What you were bonding over
was being sexist.Copy !req
167. - That's what it was.
- How so?Copy !req
168. Say-say more about that.Copy !req
169. No, we were talking about Mya.Copy !req
170. You know who I was
obsessed with back in the day?Copy !req
171. Mya.Copy !req
172. - '01, '02?
- I remember Mya. Oh, shit.Copy !req
173. I used to run home, 4:00,Copy !req
174. Wednesday afternoon, MTV,
just sitting there...Copy !req
175. trying-trying to get
Sisqó out of the way.Copy !req
176. Just like...Copy !req
177. "Fuck, nigga."Copy !req
178. What did ever happen to Mya?Copy !req
179. That's exactly
what we were talking about.Copy !req
180. We were saying, like,
I think she married, like, richCopy !req
181. and then was like,
"I-I just don't need this,"Copy !req
182. - and just decided to, like, be on her own.
- Yeah.Copy !req
183. She was like, "Oh, I'm just
gonna..." But I just...Copy !req
184. We were like, "Oh,
remember that song," like...Copy !req
185. Yes, I do. Yeah, yeah.Copy !req
186. - I remember loving that video.
- Oh.Copy !req
187. - It's so good.
- Yeah.Copy !req
188. - With Sisqó?
- Yeah.Copy !req
189. Like, we were just talking
about how much we love Mya.Copy !req
190. Mm-hmm.Copy !req
191. - Jane.
- Mm-hmm?Copy !req
192. Your body language
is saying a lot right now.Copy !req
193. What's hard
about this is thatCopy !req
194. I think you perform a bit
when you're around other men.Copy !req
195. - No. No.
- Yeah.Copy !req
196. I think...Copy !req
197. You were performing with them.Copy !req
198. You weren't even
laughing like yourself.Copy !req
199. Well, we were doing a...
uh, that's how I laugh.Copy !req
200. Nope. I have never
heard you laugh like that.Copy !req
201. That's how I laugh when I think
something's actually funny.Copy !req
202. That's my real laugh.Copy !req
203. - What?
- "Actually funny." Did you hear that?Copy !req
204. John, let's...Copy !req
205. let's try to refrain from using
cruel or absolute languageCopy !req
206. while we're in here.Copy !req
207. Outside of here, you can
do whatever you want.Copy !req
208. Not really, but you know.Copy !req
209. I think
it's something that he doesCopy !req
210. when he's around men.Copy !req
211. - Mm-hmm.
- And I don't knowCopy !req
212. if it has something
to do with his dadCopy !req
213. or if it's something to do withCopy !req
214. - the way you grew up, with how your mom...
- Wow. Okay. L-Listen.Copy !req
215. We have a therapist.
We have a therapist here.Copy !req
216. Let her do her job, okay?
You don't...Copy !req
217. Y-You're being
out of pocket, all right?Copy !req
218. What-what does that even mean?Copy !req
219. I think what John means
by "being out of pocket"Copy !req
220. is that you are
crossing a boundary.Copy !req
221. - Thank you.
- Okay.Copy !req
222. Okay, fine. He was
crossing a lot of boundariesCopy !req
223. when he was
in this conversation.Copy !req
224. Yes.Copy !req
225. - What boundaries?
- You...Copy !req
226. You were being racist.
He was saying racist thingsCopy !req
227. - about me.
- I was not.Copy !req
228. I love Latina women,Copy !req
229. but I don't
love they families, man.Copy !req
230. I mean, they just,
they just be too involved.Copy !req
231. I don't know
about that.Copy !req
232. - I can't trust a woman who isn't close to her family.
- Facts.Copy !req
233. Something wrong with a woman
who's not close with her family.Copy !req
234. I-It tells you
a lot about them.Copy !req
235. - You have a ring.
- Mm.Copy !req
236. You must be married.Copy !req
237. - Yep.
- She a Latina?Copy !req
238. - Asian, actually.
- Oh.Copy !req
239. - Nigga, word?
- I went East.Copy !req
240. Yo, you went East with...Copy !req
241. East of the border?Copy !req
242. You a lucky man,
'cause I love me some Asians.Copy !req
243. - Yeah.
- They low-key conservative.Copy !req
244. - That's facts.
- They know their role.Copy !req
245. - Mm-hmm.
- Not mine.Copy !req
246. She's not like that at all.Copy !req
247. She must be Filipino.Copy !req
248. She's Japanese,
but I never met her family,Copy !req
249. so she could be low-key Korean.Copy !req
250. I don't even know, it's like...Copy !req
251. I-I know
you're not low-key Korean.Copy !req
252. Like, that's obvious.Copy !req
253. - Like, I...
- No, no, no.Copy !req
254. I do recognize that in
your individual communities,Copy !req
255. certain ways of communicating
are permissible,Copy !req
256. but...Copy !req
257. I think bonding over racism
within that communityCopy !req
258. at your wife's expense
is-is hardly the wayCopy !req
259. - to go about that.
- This...Copy !req
260. our... the problem
wasn't about that, okay?Copy !req
261. It wasn't about what I said.Copy !req
262. It was about what she did.Copy !req
263. See? That's the thing
with this nigga.Copy !req
264. - Nigga, it hurts.
- No, no, no, no.Copy !req
265. Let me t... No, no, no, no.
Let me talk.Copy !req
266. I keep telling this nigga,Copy !req
267. don't crack your neck
like that.Copy !req
268. - Fuck that.
- You're gonna regret it later, man.Copy !req
269. That's what
I'm trying to tell him, nigga.Copy !req
270. Do some yoga.
15 minutes when you get up.Copy !req
271. - Mm-hmm.
- 15 minutes?Copy !req
272. - That's asking a lot.
- Look,Copy !req
273. somebody explain to this nigga
what I'm talking about.Copy !req
274. Look, right now, you're young.Copy !req
275. You probably
don't need to do it.Copy !req
276. You know, 15 minutes seems like
a long time in the morning.Copy !req
277. I mean, I've been
through some shit, but then...Copy !req
278. - Listen...
- Maintenance. The moreCopy !req
279. you put into your body,
the more you'll get out of it.Copy !req
280. You know those old folks
that you seeCopy !req
281. walking down the street
with their necks like that?Copy !req
282. - You don't want to be that.
- Y'all do look likeCopy !req
283. - y'all struggle up the steps.
- Don't do that.Copy !req
284. I appreciate that.
Thank you, John.Copy !req
285. Life is maintenance.Copy !req
286. I like that.Copy !req
287. Yo, who is this nigga?Copy !req
288. Yo, I-I really like that, man.Copy !req
289. I'm telling you,
it's real shit.Copy !req
290. Are these niggas
serious?Copy !req
291. I have no idea what
the fuck they're talking...Copy !req
292. Nah, nah, nah, nah!Copy !req
293. Ugh,
I'm fucking starving.Copy !req
294. Just grab the bag
and get out of there.Copy !req
295. Oh,
so Jane closed it?Copy !req
296. - Yeah.
- Yeah. Very, very aggressively.Copy !req
297. Mom!Copy !req
298. I am so sorry.Copy !req
299. This is one of the consequences
of working from home.Copy !req
300. I'm just gonna tell him I'm in a session.Copy !req
301. - Okay.
- All right.Copy !req
302. Just tell her
you were jealousCopy !req
303. and that you almost
got me killed.Copy !req
304. - Oh, what?
- You almost got me killed.Copy !req
305. I didn't get you killed.
I fucking saved you.Copy !req
306. You didn't save me.
I didn't need your help.Copy !req
307. Oh, really? Did you die?
Are you dead right now?Copy !req
308. - Am I dead right now?
- Yeah, are you?Copy !req
309. What? Are you insane?Copy !req
310. Like, who do you think you are?Copy !req
311. - God?
- Keep your voice down.Copy !req
312. - Down.
- I almost died.Copy !req
313. So...Copy !req
314. - so sorry about that.
- No.Copy !req
315. Oh, it's no problem.
He sounds sweet.Copy !req
316. Yeah, he's disrespectful.Copy !req
317. Um... Sorry.Copy !req
318. It's okay.Copy !req
319. - Forgive me.
- No.Copy !req
320. - It's all right.
- Sorry.Copy !req
321. - It's okay.
- Yeah.Copy !req
322. So, John,Copy !req
323. do you think we can
come up with a wordCopy !req
324. other than "controlling"
to explainCopy !req
325. why Jane might have intervened?Copy !req
326. Um...Copy !req
327. I feel like...Copy !req
328. maybe Jane intervened
possibly because she's...Copy !req
329. s-she can be... anxious.Copy !req
330. And do you want Jane
to feel that anxious?Copy !req
331. No.Copy !req
332. I want her to let me help herCopy !req
333. be less anxious.Copy !req
334. And do you think you can
let John do that more?Copy !req
335. - Yeah.
- That's great.Copy !req
336. That's so great.Copy !req
337. Nice work, John.Copy !req
338. I do... I...Copy !req
339. I don't know,
I just have trouble,Copy !req
340. still, with the idea of-of...Copy !req
341. Like, how do I do that
without making sacrificesCopy !req
342. to the parts of...Copy !req
343. You know, without
sacrificing parts of myselfCopy !req
344. that make me me.Copy !req
345. Mm-hmm.Copy !req
346. You know, when I was
spending some timeCopy !req
347. in the jungles
of Tortuguero, Costa Rica,Copy !req
348. a, uh, rare mantled howler,
the Alouatta palliata,Copy !req
349. stared at me
directly in my eyes.Copy !req
350. And at first,
I held his stare...Copy !req
351. until I realized,
if I didn't heed his warning,Copy !req
352. he was ready to take
a chunk out of my face.Copy !req
353. So I averted my gaze,Copy !req
354. because sometimes we just
have to listen to nature.Copy !req
355. You know what I mean?Copy !req
356. - Yeah.
- Mm.Copy !req
357. - Mm, mm, mm.
- Mm-hmm.Copy !req
358. Mm-hmm.Copy !req
359. We are out of time.Copy !req
360. - Oh.
- But this has been great.Copy !req
361. - Okay?
- Yeah.Copy !req
362. So, same time next week?Copy !req
363. - Um...
- Yeah, we can...Copy !req
364. I-I think we can do that.Copy !req
365. - Okay, great.
- Thank you so much.Copy !req
366. - Thank you.
- You're so welcome.Copy !req
367. - No problem.
- The Venmo, uh, codeCopy !req
368. is on a sticky note
right by the door.Copy !req
369. - Okay. Okay, great.
- You have...Copy !req
370. - I have the phone.
- You can take a picture of it, there...Copy !req
371. My son is... It's a...
it's been done, it's out there.Copy !req
372. - Okay.
- Okay.Copy !req
373. - Thank you so much.
- Thank you.Copy !req
374. What do you think she meant
by the monkey story?Copy !req
375. I don't know.Copy !req
376. I was thinking about that.
I was very lost.Copy !req
377. I didn't know where to look.Copy !req
378. I don't...Copy !req
379. - Was the monkey me?
- Or was the monkey me, I thought.Copy !req
380. Was she, was that a, like,
a racist, like,Copy !req
381. "Don't make eye contact with me."Copy !req
382. Beautiful floors, Doc.Copy !req
383. Thank you
for noticing, John.Copy !req
384. The wood on the floor, uh,
believe it or not,Copy !req
385. actually came
from my childhood home.Copy !req
386. I had them fly it in ages ago.Copy !req
387. - Wow.
- Mm.Copy !req
388. - You love this house. I can tell.
- I do love this house.Copy !req
389. It's a real, um, cocoon for me.Copy !req
390. So...Copy !req
391. how did things feel,
since our last session?Copy !req
392. Not good, honestly.Copy !req
393. It wasn't great.Copy !req
394. Jane, do you notice
that you do that a lot?Copy !req
395. - Answer for the both of you?
- Well, he's not...Copy !req
396. I mean, last time, I feel like,
in the last session,Copy !req
397. he was doing that for me.Copy !req
398. But now I just feel like he's not...Copy !req
399. answering, he's looking
to me to answer, so...Copy !req
400. Okay,
and that's fair.Copy !req
401. John, do you notice
that you do that a lot?Copy !req
402. Look to Jane for the answer?Copy !req
403. Yeah, I guess
I've just gotten used toCopy !req
404. her thinking she has
all the answers.Copy !req
405. Can you rephrase that, John?Copy !req
406. I...Copy !req
407. don't know as much as her.Copy !req
408. Great.Copy !req
409. Has Jane been able to
let you take the lead at allCopy !req
410. since we saw each other last?Copy !req
411. I tried.Copy !req
412. - Out of the way!
- Hold up!Copy !req
413. Fuck. Fuck.Copy !req
414. It's not my fault
you have asthma.Copy !req
415. - Uh...
- Why-why even say that?Copy !req
416. H-How is asthma relevant here?Copy !req
417. - She's just using it to cut me down.
- Don't do the thingCopy !req
418. where you twist it around
and make it seem likeCopy !req
419. you're the good guy
and I'm being bad.Copy !req
420. I'm not, I'm pointing out...Copy !req
421. I'm not the villain.Copy !req
422. You were the one
who was actually mean.Copy !req
423. - I'm not the villain, either.
- Yeah...Copy !req
424. How so? How so?
Elaborate on that.Copy !req
425. So, there was
a software malfunction.Copy !req
426. I'm saving the computer
from crashing.Copy !req
427. You always have to be firstCopy !req
428. to troubleshoot a problemCopy !req
429. when it's fine the way it is.Copy !req
430. I don't need
to troubleshoot.Copy !req
431. I start at zero
and I go up through the codes.Copy !req
432. You go up through the codes?Copy !req
433. - Yeah.
- My files are clean.Copy !req
434. - My-my files are fine.
- Your files are so corrupt.Copy !req
435. The amount that I have
to clean up after you is wild.Copy !req
436. - Really?
- Yeah.Copy !req
437. 'Cause the malware you haveCopy !req
438. - is I-incredible.
- Okay.Copy !req
439. - Uh-huh.
- Okay? it's crazy that it's still even running.Copy !req
440. You're the one
who did the thing after.Copy !req
441. That's-that's the...
that's the thingCopy !req
442. that actually fucked me up.Copy !req
443. You never want to
give me credit for anything.Copy !req
444. Okay? I'm good at pivoting.Copy !req
445. I taught you that.Copy !req
446. I'm always communicating
with you, on the job.Copy !req
447. I'm keeping you in the loop.Copy !req
448. Third floor!Copy !req
449. Oh, come on.Copy !req
450. Fourth floor.Copy !req
451. - Fifth!
- Oh, God.Copy !req
452. - Whatever, Jane.
- I...Copy !req
453. Always the martyr. I get it.Copy !req
454. Ninth floor! Tenth floor!Copy !req
455. I'm gonna
fucking kill this guy.Copy !req
456. I'm gonna kill this guy.Copy !req
457. Eleventh!Copy !req
458. Twelfth!Copy !req
459. Fuck... you, you motherfucker.Copy !req
460. Fifteen!Copy !req
461. Sixteenth floor!Copy !req
462. We're
heading onto the roof!Copy !req
463. Die, motherfucker.Copy !req
464. What? What are you saying?Copy !req
465. Who are you talking to?Copy !req
466. What that... Who was that for?Copy !req
467. Was that for you
or was that for me?Copy !req
468. Oh... Oh...Copy !req
469. Babe.Copy !req
470. "Die, motherfucker"?Copy !req
471. Did I miss
your first movie?Copy !req
472. - Holy shit.
- He laughed at me.Copy !req
473. In my face. 'Cause he couldn't
keep up with coding.Copy !req
474. And I was saving you...Copy !req
475. Stop laughing.Copy !req
476. It was funny,
that you said that.Copy !req
477. It was a c...
Y-You said a catchphraseCopy !req
478. while we were c-coding.Copy !req
479. What?Copy !req
480. Imagine if I had said something
like that, if I was like,Copy !req
481. "That's what's up,
chicken butt."Copy !req
482. Like, if I said that,
you would've...Copy !req
483. Y-You're laughing.Copy !req
484. Because that's not
what I said, first of...Copy !req
485. - Yeah, but it was funny.
- It's hurtfulCopy !req
486. when you laugh
at something like that.Copy !req
487. - Come on.
- I needed to say that to go there.Copy !req
488. To-to go where?Copy !req
489. It's just a moment.Copy !req
490. And it's... y-you're taking it
like I'm belittling you.Copy !req
491. - It's not belittling. You're the one who thinks...
- You are.Copy !req
492. that I can't live without
you. That's belittling.Copy !req
493. I've had to save you
many times, it's just a fact.Copy !req
494. When have you...
when have you saved my life?Copy !req
495. Ski work trip.Copy !req
496. - The ski trip?
- Mm-hmm.Copy !req
497. You saved my dick.
That is not my life.Copy !req
498. That's not
a small feat. That...Copy !req
499. Oh, it's not like
I get to use it anymore.Copy !req
500. - It's like...
- Jesus.Copy !req
501. when it comes to you,
and all your problemsCopy !req
502. and your point of view,
I have to be thereCopy !req
503. and support it
and understand it,Copy !req
504. but when it comes to me
and my stuff,Copy !req
505. no one gives a fuck.Copy !req
506. - Sorry.
- It's okay.Copy !req
507. He's being brave. And honest.Copy !req
508. Uh, I-I'm so sorry.Copy !req
509. Uh, please
don't play that piano.Copy !req
510. - Sorry, it's not for playing.
- Oh.Copy !req
511. It was my grandfather's.Copy !req
512. It was the one thing
my grandparentsCopy !req
513. were able to save from the war.Copy !req
514. One of the Nazis loved
to hear them play it.Copy !req
515. - It saved their lives.
- Oh, Jesus.Copy !req
516. I'm sorry. I didn't...Copy !req
517. You should, you should
return to your seat, John.Copy !req
518. - Okay.
- Thank you so much.Copy !req
519. I didn't realize that was not
a play... p-playing piano.Copy !req
520. I know. A lot
of people do that, so it's okay.Copy !req
521. It's okay. You should
get a little sign.Copy !req
522. I mean, you got
a QR code, so...Copy !req
523. So...Copy !req
524. Is this the, uh,
traditional dynamicCopy !req
525. between the two of you?Copy !req
526. Jane taking the lead,
in a leadership role, always?Copy !req
527. It-it wasn't like that
at the beginning.Copy !req
528. In the beginning,
I had more, um,Copy !req
529. uh, coding experience than her,Copy !req
530. and, you know,
there was a lot...Copy !req
531. I-I trained her,
in a lot of ways.Copy !req
532. You trained me?Copy !req
533. Uh, I gave you
a lot more guidance.Copy !req
534. - Mm.
- You know, and if I'm being honest,Copy !req
535. I felt more comfortable
in that roleCopy !req
536. 'cause it-it felt like
she was looking up to me.Copy !req
537. And I miss that.Copy !req
538. What a vulnerable thing
to admit.Copy !req
539. How does that
make you feel, Jane?Copy !req
540. I do still
look up to you, John.Copy !req
541. Sometimes you act like...
like I'm holding you back.Copy !req
542. - It feels like you-you think I'm holding you back.
- I don't feel that way.Copy !req
543. I don't think
you're holding me back.Copy !req
544. I don't.Copy !req
545. Do you feel that?Copy !req
546. That's the power of the work
that we're doing here together.Copy !req
547. It's the power of this room.Copy !req
548. So, I think what
I would like for youCopy !req
549. to try to do
is to try saying "time-out"Copy !req
550. when things start heating up.Copy !req
551. It might sound silly,
but my husband and I do it,Copy !req
552. and it really does work.Copy !req
553. You say "time-out,"
you take 20 minutes,Copy !req
554. and then,
if you want to revisitCopy !req
555. the conversation or the topic,
of course you can.Copy !req
556. But the funny thing is,
nine times out of ten, it...Copy !req
557. it no longer
feels as important.Copy !req
558. Do you think you can try this?Copy !req
559. - Mm-hmm.
- Okay, so next time?Copy !req
560. - Next time.
- Great.Copy !req
561. She likes you more than me.Copy !req
562. - That's not true.
- No, it's true.Copy !req
563. Everyone likes you more.
You're very likeable.Copy !req
564. Why don't we start this sessionCopy !req
565. saying one great thingCopy !req
566. that your partner does for you?Copy !req
567. Jane?Copy !req
568. John always leaves
the toilet seat down.Copy !req
569. Did something happen
this week at work?Copy !req
570. John?Copy !req
571. Okay, look,
I'm just gonna call outCopy !req
572. the elephant in the room here.Copy !req
573. It seems like work is a real
point of contention for you.Copy !req
574. Yeah. It, uh...Copy !req
575. it wasn't a good work week.Copy !req
576. And a lot of this
might be depressionCopy !req
577. from-from looking
at screens all day.Copy !req
578. It's not the screens.Copy !req
579. What would you say it is, then?Copy !req
580. What happened this week?Copy !req
581. We went on a work retreat.Copy !req
582. Camping.Copy !req
583. This is taking longer
than Hihi said it would.Copy !req
584. Why wouldn't they include
coordinates to find this guy?Copy !req
585. They probably
don't know where he is.Copy !req
586. He's obviously off the grid.Copy !req
587. Are you sure
we're not lost?Copy !req
588. So, what
were you actually doingCopy !req
589. on this retreat?Copy !req
590. - We were hunting.
- Wow.Copy !req
591. I-I didn't see you two
as the hunting type.Copy !req
592. What were you hunting?Copy !req
593. Just big game.Copy !req
594. It was big.Copy !req
595. John is a big game hunter.Copy !req
596. John is
a big game hunter?Copy !req
597. - Mm-hmm.
- Mm-hmm.Copy !req
598. It all looks the same.Copy !req
599. Not to me.Copy !req
600. The woods are the woods.Copy !req
601. We're-we're lost here.Copy !req
602. You think, after two days,Copy !req
603. you're just gonna
magically get service?Copy !req
604. Look, we're not lost.
Would you trust me?Copy !req
605. - You always get like this.
- Like what?Copy !req
606. All stressed and worried and...Copy !req
607. We're not gonna
fail the mission.Copy !req
608. I know you're worried about it,
but we're just not.Copy !req
609. We'll find him
before nightfall, okay?Copy !req
610. Okay.Copy !req
611. It was nice
at the beginning.Copy !req
612. Because it felt like
she needed me again,Copy !req
613. and it felt like there was
a spark that was being relit.Copy !req
614. - Mm-hmm.
- Hmm.Copy !req
615. Jane?Copy !req
616. Yeah, there was, there was
a small spark in the beginning.Copy !req
617. So, where did things go wrong?Copy !req
618. We were working,
camping, doing the hunting,Copy !req
619. and then he got all machismo.Copy !req
620. You impressed?Copy !req
621. If you catch something
with it, I will be.Copy !req
622. This whole mission is weird.Copy !req
623. How?Copy !req
624. I mean, you're acting
like this is Disneyland,Copy !req
625. like y-you're camping.Copy !req
626. It's...Copy !req
627. I don't know.Copy !req
628. We haven't seen
a trace of the target.Copy !req
629. There's no reception here,
nobody's here.Copy !req
630. We're just...Copy !req
631. How do we even know
he's still here?Copy !req
632. - Okay, fuck it.
- What are you doing?Copy !req
633. The fuck?Copy !req
634. Chill.Copy !req
635. Stop, Jo... The Hunter
is gonna hear you.Copy !req
636. - Are you crazy?
- Then he'll come to us.Copy !req
637. We can't find him,
so he'll come to us.Copy !req
638. Ah.Copy !req
639. What is happening?Copy !req
640. See, the trick is
you got to shootCopy !req
641. under it, not at it.Copy !req
642. I didn't read a book.Copy !req
643. That's what happened.Copy !req
644. That's how you're
gonna talk about this?Copy !req
645. That's what you're gonna say?Copy !req
646. This is all because of a book.Copy !req
647. I'm-I'm sorry, what-what
was this, uh, about a book?Copy !req
648. He lied.Copy !req
649. That's sad.Copy !req
650. What's sad?Copy !req
651. There was a bug
that was attracted to this...Copy !req
652. It's nothing.Copy !req
653. You got to try and relax.Copy !req
654. Whenever you think
of something sad...Copy !req
655. try and think about
the joy that's in it, you know?Copy !req
656. Like, right now, it...Copy !req
657. underneath the stars.Copy !req
658. Most people don't get
to see this anymore.Copy !req
659. It's like The Prophet.Copy !req
660. Hmm?Copy !req
661. "The Joy and the Sorrow."Copy !req
662. Hmm.Copy !req
663. I'm tired.Copy !req
664. I'm gonna go to bed.Copy !req
665. Do you actually
like The Prophet?Copy !req
666. What?Copy !req
667. The book. The Prophet.Copy !req
668. Yeah. What-what about it?Copy !req
669. Have you even read it?Copy !req
670. N... No.Copy !req
671. So this was about a book?Copy !req
672. It started off about a book.
It's not about a book.Copy !req
673. Well, then,
what is it about, then?Copy !req
674. You told me it was
your favorite book.Copy !req
675. - You said...
- When did I say that?Copy !req
676. I said it was my favorite book,Copy !req
677. I said the Hot Neighbor
loved it...Copy !req
678. and then you said...Copy !req
679. What?Copy !req
680. That, yeah, I mean, yeah,
then that's probably why.Copy !req
681. I was...
I-I don't like that guy.Copy !req
682. - I just, I don't like how he flirts with you.
- Oh, my God.Copy !req
683. I don't understand that,
so I prob...Copy !req
684. I-I said that to...Copy !req
685. It's-it's just a book.Copy !req
686. So you lied.Copy !req
687. Yeah. Yeah, I lied.Copy !req
688. I-I don't think it warrants
this kind of reaction.Copy !req
689. I thought that was
why we matched,Copy !req
690. because it's our favorite book.Copy !req
691. You think
an international spy agencyCopy !req
692. put us together because
we like the same book?Copy !req
693. - No.
- Like it's OkCupid or something?Copy !req
694. Okay.Copy !req
695. - No, I-I'm wrong.
- Right. What do you mean?Copy !req
696. I'm wrong, 'cause I actually
have never seen youCopy !req
697. read a book in the entire time
I've known you, so...Copy !req
698. - It makes sense.
- I know you, Jane.Copy !req
699. And you're very calculated
about how you put things.Copy !req
700. So if you want to call me
stupid, just call me stupid...Copy !req
701. - I'm not calling you stupid.
- ... and we can have a conversation about it.Copy !req
702. No, I'm not calling you stupid,Copy !req
703. I'm just saying you don't
read books, which is true.Copy !req
704. What are you...Copy !req
705. Yo. Can we just
please go to sleep?Copy !req
706. All right?
We can argue about...Copy !req
707. books in the morning,
all right?Copy !req
708. Yeah, I'm tired. Let's...Copy !req
709. You've been teaching me all day
like I'm your student, so...Copy !req
710. I've...Copy !req
711. I've been trying to
share things with you.Copy !req
712. We were doing things together.Copy !req
713. - I was showing you...
- No, it was pretty condescendingCopy !req
714. and controlling, so...Copy !req
715. I'm condescending
and controlling?Copy !req
716. Yeah.Copy !req
717. Jane, you don't even
let me eat you outCopy !req
718. without telling me
how to do it.Copy !req
719. - I have to tell you how to do it...
- Every fucking time,Copy !req
720. like I've never seen
a fucking vagina before.Copy !req
721. You don't know how I like it,
so I have to tell you...Copy !req
722. - Every fucking time?
- If you learnedCopy !req
723. and listened, maybe I wouldn't
have to fucking sayCopy !req
724. - how to lick my pussy.
- This is classic Jane.Copy !req
725. "I have to emasculate you
so I feel worth it."Copy !req
726. I have to teach you everything
because you don't know...Copy !req
727. - You don't have to teach me shit.
- ... how to do a lot of things.Copy !req
728. - I... You act like a baby!
- You're sittingCopy !req
729. underneath a shelter I made.Copy !req
730. - Oh! "Oh, I'm man.
- I made this fire,Copy !req
731. - I got you this fish...
- I build shelter,Copy !req
732. food, fire, water."Copy !req
733. - Fuck you.
- Nice.Copy !req
734. Why are you like this?Copy !req
735. Why do you do that?
I-I just don't get it.Copy !req
736. - I just have deeper priorities.
- You got...Copy !req
737. - you have deeper priorities?
- Yeah.Copy !req
738. You don't have the capacity
to understand it, so...Copy !req
739. Just shut up. Y-You're always
trying to make somebodyCopy !req
740. - feel stupid.
- "Shut up."Shut up."Copy !req
741. "Fuck you."
Is that how your momCopy !req
742. taught you
how to talk to women?Copy !req
743. You're obsessed with my mom.Copy !req
744. Wait, wait. Okay.Copy !req
745. You're saying
I'm obsessed with your mom?Copy !req
746. You call her five times a day.Copy !req
747. It-it's a little unhealthy
and it's...Copy !req
748. - You need boundaries.
- Oh, oh, like, the boundaries thing?Copy !req
749. - Yeah, you need that.
- That-that's the whitest thingCopy !req
750. - that you... and-and you... you're always like...
- Oh, what a fucking cool dig.Copy !req
751. Like, you don't even know
what that means.Copy !req
752. Her husband died.
I'm the man in her life.Copy !req
753. I take care of her
because I came out of her.Copy !req
754. What did you do for your dad
when your mom died?Copy !req
755. Other than not
talk to him ever again.Copy !req
756. She's a good mother.Copy !req
757. You wouldn't know
anything about thatCopy !req
758. 'cause you're too busy
gallivanting aroundCopy !req
759. with a fucking cat.Copy !req
760. So don't talk about her.Copy !req
761. Don't fucking bring her upCopy !req
762. every time we have
a disagreement,Copy !req
763. 'cause you don't
understand feelings.Copy !req
764. You don't know what it's like
to care about somebody.Copy !req
765. You just pretend,
and fucking robotic mimicCopy !req
766. everything somebody else does.Copy !req
767. I don't know if you're
on the spectrum or what,Copy !req
768. but it's fucking weird,
and all you doCopy !req
769. is make other people
feel bad for feeling shit.Copy !req
770. You said it yourself:
You wouldn't be a good mom.Copy !req
771. So don't come here
and talk that shit to me.Copy !req
772. We already failed
this fucking mission, anyway.Copy !req
773. Who is your emergency contact?Copy !req
774. What?Copy !req
775. Who is your emergency contact?Copy !req
776. My mom.Copy !req
777. You're mine.Copy !req
778. Our boss was unhappy,
to say the least.Copy !req
779. I have a thought.Copy !req
780. Are you ever able
to take time off from work?Copy !req
781. - Not really. No.
- No. Not really.Copy !req
782. What about working on
separate projects for a while,Copy !req
783. rather than-than
doing it all together?Copy !req
784. - It doesn't really work that way.
- Yeah.Copy !req
785. Okay, guys, honestly,
it's just a job.Copy !req
786. Just a job.
It is not life and death.Copy !req
787. I know that a lot of this
is really tough,Copy !req
788. but you guys have to remember
that no one is forcing youCopy !req
789. to stay together.Copy !req
790. No one is holding
a gun to your head.Copy !req
791. You can leave
this relationship at any time.Copy !req
792. You are choosing to stay in it.Copy !req
793. It's a choice.Copy !req
794. Right now, you are
choosing to be better.Copy !req
795. Otherwise you wouldn't be
showing up here every week,Copy !req
796. saying all of the hard things.Copy !req
797. Yeah?Copy !req
798. Okay.Copy !req
799. You know,
maybe we ask Hih... um...Copy !req
800. him, our boss,
if we could get separate...Copy !req
801. - um, coding projects for a while.
- Yeah.Copy !req
802. - That could be good.
- Mm-hmm.Copy !req
803. Mm-hmm.Copy !req
804. That sounds like a solid plan.Copy !req
805. Do you feel better?Copy !req
806. - Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
- Yeah.Copy !req
807. Great. So I will
see you next week?Copy !req
808. - Mm-hmm. Thank you.
- Yeah, thank you.Copy !req
809. Oh, and before I forget,
I want to give you this.Copy !req
810. What's that?Copy !req
811. Uh, those are the recordings.Copy !req
812. R-Recordings? Well, um...Copy !req
813. Yes, remember
the contract you signed?Copy !req
814. I record all of the sessions,
and then, that way,Copy !req
815. at the end of every month,
you can watch it back,Copy !req
816. we can unpack anything
we might have missed,Copy !req
817. listen for tone.Copy !req
818. - Great.
- Great.Copy !req
819. Where are all the, um,
the cameras and...Copy !req
820. - microphones and stuff?
- Oh, goodness,Copy !req
821. they are hidden
all over the room.Copy !req
822. I feel, when people
can see the cameras,Copy !req
823. they tend to behave inorganically.Copy !req
824. Of course. Yeah.Copy !req
825. - Yeah.
- Well, uh...Copy !req
826. We're gonna listen to this.Copy !req
827. - Yeah. Cool.
- Yeah.Copy !req
828. Totally forgot that, yeah,
we were recording.Copy !req
829. - Yeah. Thank you.
- Thank you.Copy !req
830. - Thanks.
- Oh.Copy !req
831. What is that?
That's-that's a great piece.Copy !req
832. Oh. Well, thank you very much.Copy !req
833. That was actually made
by a person in Kütahya,Copy !req
834. who's no longer with us.Copy !req
835. An artist by the name
of Ulu Bakmancho.Copy !req
836. This was his final piece.Copy !req
837. He said, "This ends with me."Copy !req
838. All right.Copy !req
839. Thank you.
See you next week.Copy !req
840. - Beautiful house.
- Thank you again.Copy !req
841. Don't forget the, uh,
Venmo by the door.Copy !req
842. Uh-huh. Yeah.Copy !req
843. Got it.Copy !req
844. Jesus Christ.Copy !req
845. Mom. Mom.Copy !req
846. Mommy's working!
She's still working!Copy !req
847. Mom, there's a fire!Copy !req
848. Think we should try again
with someone else?Copy !req
849. - No. It's not for us.
- I-I know it's not fun,Copy !req
850. - but there's something good...
- But you know what? Now you're gonna use it against me.Copy !req
851. - Anytime we get into a fight, you're gonna say, "Oh...
- I'm not angry at you.Copy !req
852. - I'm just trying to say...
- ... if we just had therapy," and that would be the thingCopy !req
853. - that we would be able to do.
- Would you... Time-out!Copy !req
854. Yes, my house
is completely on fire.Copy !req
855. There's smoke b-billowing out.Copy !req
856. I don't know.Copy !req
857. Yes, yes, I have so many
special things in that house.Copy !req